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Hey Oloni. So I’m dating this guy, I’ve known him for a few years now but only started dating recently… a month into our relationship I found out that he is engaged!! However he says that he will leave her by the end of the year, they have kids together so he can’t just up and leave, should I wait for him or just leave… I’m so confused, we’ve been together for 4 months now and it’s been the best, well apart from the baby mother issue….
24. September 2018
He’s engaged.. why is this even up for debate? He’s not going to leave his family for you.
Oloni
Dear Oloni. Recently they guy i’m dating fingered me after eating fried chicken and not washing his hands. I did think of asking him to but we were in the moment and it just happened. Ever since, I have these bumps on my vagina and I’m too embarrass to ask my friends for advice. I also have been avoiding another sexual encounter with the guy as the bumps are getting bigger, itchy and look swollen. What could this be and what can I do to get rid of them please? I’d really appreciate your advice, Thanks x
24. September 2018
Hey my love! Yikes you should have told him to wash his hands. His dirty fingers aren’t sexy lol. You need to visit the sexual health asap.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, so I asked a guy out over summer, we went on 2 dates that went really well, he said really good things about me to his mates and we were texting but then he sent me a text saying I really enjoy hanging out w u but I’ve been mulling (lol mulling???) things over and I’d like to keep it just friends. I really like him and don’t understand where this came from? I know I was his first ever date (he’s 24) and everyone’s saying he just got cold feet. I saw him the other night in a group situation, it wasn’t awkward at all and he keeps liking literally everything I post on insta? do you think there’s anything I can do/say from here? I kinda wanna ask him what changed? can ppl just stop fancying someone just like that?!
24. September 2018
Heya love! He’s told you how he felt already. All you can do is accept what he’s said, if he wanted it to go further, he have continued pursing you.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. I like this guy.. it’s very early days but I would like to see where it goes. We’ve had sex once but we barely communicate as I don’t want to be a bug-a-boo. We live a fair distance from each other too which I feel for him would be a problem. How would you suggest I get him to take me seriously to see how things progress? Or do you think I should just put the situation to bed?
19. September 2018
Why not ask him out on a date? See how he responds to that by asking to meet up for drinks or dinner. I think that’ll help you see where you stand with him. Good luck!
Oloni
Hey Oloni, this is a bit of a sticky one still but I’m an18 year old guy who is going uni and there is this one girl (who has a boyfriend) that literally pm saying she wants to beat. I’ve talked to the guy before (we all went to the same school and college) but we aren’t friends or anything. Should i go ahead with this cos i really want to but idk about it hence here i am talking to you (btw she hasn’t mentioned she has a man but i know they are together)
19. September 2018
Lol ask her if she’s in a relationship. If she IS I feel like you know the right answer.
Oloni
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