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Hey Oloni, so I’m Jamaican and my girl is Nigerian, we’ve been together for about 6 months now and everything is perfect. She’s everything i’ve ever I wanted and a really great girlfriend. The only problem is that whenever I go to clubs or parties with her and Afrobeats comes on, she always leaves me to go and dance with all the other Africans even the guys. I try not to let this get to me because it is her culture and I respect that but there’s something in me that just gets uncomfortable whenever she does it, am I being too possessive?
4. October 2018
Heya love.. aww I don’t think it’s a huge issue. However, if it really does bother you, perhaps you can make a light joke out of the situation and ask why she does it??
Oloni
Why is it frowned upon too judge someone on their body count, my boyfriend has slept with a number of people. Everytime he’s on instagram and I ask who’s that he responds with I fucked her. I don’t know if it’s that fact that he follows so many people that he’s had sex with or that he’s had sex with so many people. I just bothers me a bit because I feel that he’s just cheapened him self and just fucked his way through life.
4. October 2018
I can’t lie this made me giggle. I think it’s a bit insensitive that he’s interacting with women he’s been intimate with. It also sounds like you have an issue with it. So why not tell him this? Would he be okay if you did the same thing? It’s also frowned up to criticise someone’s sexuality, because no one should have a say over a body which doesn’t belong to them. We should all be allowed to have sex the way we desire, so long as it’s consensual.
Oloni
Hey oloni. So this girl I’ve been seeing came over to my house and saw a painting I have. I’m quite rich, and it’s a painting that’ll appreciate in value. It is however one of a very pretty white girl naked, covering her bits but she’s got curves. It’s very realistic too, by a foreign amateur who’s gaining attention. This girl was furious I have it and wanted me to take it down. I don’t want to, plus I have no idea how shell react about me watching porn. Shall I dump her? Worst thing is she’s an absolute wifey and I’ve caught feelings
24. September 2018
She sounds annoying, so I don’t know where this “wifey” has come from. It’s a painting, it really isn’t that serious.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, this guy I’ve been dating has progressively started to repulse me. He has a good dick size and performs well but I have to close my eyes and imagine someone else fucking me because he’s just ugly the poor sod. When he sucks on my breasts he looks like a rabid dog LOOL. It’s got to the point where I’ll only do doggy so I don’t have to look at his face… he makes really weird expressions like sticking his tongue out of the side of his mouth, like when you’re really concentrating trying put a thread through a needle kind of face. Anyway, his personality is nice which is why I gave it a go with him, and we do get on well. He treats me like I princess. I don’t know how to let him down and whether I should be honest about his disgusting facial expressions being the main cause of nothing progressing. He’s been a bit of a dickhead recently though so I’m torn between robbing him and letting him down gently. Please help
24. September 2018
Oh wow.
Please let this dude go. I don’t even know what to say…
Oloni
T/W: termination. I need a little help. I’ve been dating someone for about 11 months. Well I was. We discovered I was pregnant a month ago. He was happy about it telling his friends etc. All of a sudden I couldn’t get in touch with him from last Saturday. So I decided to go to his house yesterday. For me to meet another woman and child. He looked so guilty. She told me she’s his wife and he has just brought them over. I’m angry. Feeling betrayed and very heartbroken. The worst part is he couldn’t even look me in the eye. I feel stupid and worthless. I’m afraid how can I not only have a baby by myself but one to a married man. I feel like abortion is my only choice now and that breaks my heart even more
24. September 2018
I’m sooo sorry that you’re going through this. It’s heartbreaking how someone can keep this sort of information from someone they were dating. I think it’s important you distance yourself from him just so you’re able to think straight and weigh out your options properly. I’d also advise being around family and extremely close friends who can help support you. Once you’ve figured out what you’d like to do, reach out to him and explain your decision.
Oloni
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