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My boyfriend drinks 2 bottles of wine to himself Saturday and sunday night. Every week. Is this normal??
14. November 2018
He could have a problem. I’m not entirely sure, but it sounds so. Speak to him about it and share your concerns.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend got another girl pregnant. She didn’t keep it even though she really wanted it. He promised me they no longer talk. but the whole situation has me feeling a type of way. The two of them were very good friends you could almost say she was his female best friend. Also I feel like he’s not completely over her.
14. November 2018
He’s not your boyfriend sis. He got another chick pregnant, as in.. she nearly brought LIFE into this world, because he was disrespecting YOUR relationship by cheating. Why do you want him, is he rich? Regardless you have to let this dude go.
Oloni
My girlfriend is boring. We’ve been together for almost 5 years. I work hard with a full time job and also have a side hustle, When an opportunity arises I make the effort to plan something nice for us to do. If I don’t plan anything we don’t do anything. I love this girl to death. My sex drive is very high. She never initiates sex and when I initiate sex it’s always no. I’ve tried speaking to her about it, but nothing. It’s driving me crazy.
14. November 2018
If you’ve spoken to her about everything you’ve mentioned to me, it’s sad to say but maybe it’s time you exit the relationship. Forcing it with her will only cause more problems. It’s best to be with someone who you’re compatible with emotionally and sexually.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I was with my ex boyfriend for 6 months prior to him getting arrested. It was good during those 6 months but I wasn’t with him long enough to know how I truly felt about him. After he got arrested I stayed with him for 18 months while he was in prison. I soon after realised this isn’t what I wanted. I put my whole life on pause for him, I didn’t go out cause he wouldn’t know what I would get up to and things like that. It even got so bad he wanted me to download a app where he could see where I was 24/7 (he had a phone). Several weeks after we ended I met a guy, not just a guy… THE GUY. We connect on a different level and we’re into all the same things. To cut it short my ex will be out by the end of next year and he is somewhat psycho, he doesn’t know I’m seeing someone knew and if he did I’m scared of what he might do. I’m contemplating going into hiding, deleting all my social media etc. He doesn’t know where I live or anything but he feels like he invested a lot of time and money in me. What should I do?
14. November 2018
Heya! Wow. Okay, I think you should try getting a new number or make sure you block his once he tries to call you. I’d also suggest blocking him off all socials so he can’t see what you’re doing. If you come into contact with him and his displays any crazy behaviour alert the police immediately. Be safe and congrats on the new guy sis.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I just need some advice. Right so next week I’m having sex for the first time since I lost my v-card a couple years back and I’m really nervous I don’t know what to expect, what to do! How do I prepare myself because honestly I don’t know what I’ve got my self into but I just feel like it’s time.
14. November 2018
Heya hun! Breatheee. Make sure you enjoy a lot of foreplay before any penetration happens. This will allow you to feel more relaxed. Perhaps take some lube with you also and communicate with your sexual partner how you enjoy being pleased.
Oloni
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