My partner tries his best during sex to get me to orgasm but I just can’t. With a vibrator I’m fine but with him it’s like I’m almost there but not quite. This is hard for both of us and I worry that he feels inadequate. How can I relax during sex and what tips do you have that’ll help me orgasm?
31. August 2018
Heya! Don’t worry too much. Plenty of women find it hard to orgasm during sex. The male and female orgasm isn’t identical in how it’s achieved. My tip would be to try longer foreplay and to try using a clitoral toy during penetration during sex. A great position to try this would be in doggy-style.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, so I have had a crush on this guy for about 6 months and I finally got the courage to talk to him. We were following each other on Instagram. We DM’ed and eventually I gave him my number and we took it to WhatsApp/iMessage. The week we started talking off Insta I find that he’s actually already seeing someone.. what do I do? Idk if he’s interested for sure, but also I like the guy. Help 🤧
31. August 2018
Seeing or IN a relationship? If he’s in a relationship then back off as you’re more than likely to be wasting your time. If he’s seeing/dating, he’s still pretty single. Talk to him and ask what his game is.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, my boyfriend saw that I had liked photos on instagram of male friends (group/holiday photos not even selfies)and assumed I had slept with them so liked the photos of a girl he had previously slept with out of spite to make me stop. I dont know how to deal with this level of insecurity and also my own personal anger at the photos hes liked
28. August 2018
You both need to talk. So everytime you like a photo of the opposite sex, he’s going to like photos of women he’s been intimate with? How childish.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, need some advice because I’m feeling like a terrible person:( I been with my boyfriend 2 years and in that time we’ve gotten a lot closer of course. He went through a rough patch financially and emotionally (were both students) and I supported him as much as I could. He’s really into music (rapping) but in my opinion I don’t think he’s that good and I haven’t got the heart to tell him that! However he’s trying to improve and is doing free performances. My problem is that he’s getting a little more attention and I feel like it’s getting to his head and I’m no longer his number 1 priority ands it driving me crazy and making we wish he doesn’t succeed in music. I feel so bad saying it but I can’t help how I feel. How can I bring this up to him without it sounding like I want him to fail?! Than you x
28. August 2018
Woah. I think it’s time you call the relationship quits. What you just explained sounds like you’re not happy for him or what brings him happiness. It’s very selfish and self centered.
Oloni
My boyfriends breath smells so bad and it really puts me off. I don’t even want to kiss him and when we’re getting intimate or having sex I need to turn away from him because his breath just repulses me. I don’t understand because he is a really clean person, so good looking, 10/10 and always smells good, but his breath is just disgusting. One time I even left his house because his breath was just pissing me off. I love him so much and I see myself having a future with him, but how do I deal with this issue?
28. August 2018
Oh gosh. The best thing you can do is to be straightforward and tell him. When you’re in a relationship and love that person, we’re worried about hurting our partners feelings.. But you can’t let him go around with smelly breath. He’ll literally embarrass you in front of others as well as himself.
There should be a level of familiarity couples should have so they can be honest about each others hygiene on top of other things. Just communicate and perhaps suggest he see a dentist.
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