Hey Oloni, I’m a little embarrassed to speak about this but I really need your advice. My boyfriend of three months isn’t all over me. You’d think its a new relationship so they’ll look for every moment to have their hands all over you. But he doesn’t even have sex with me never mind kissing. Whenever I’m about to lean for a kiss he blocks it and will go to sleep. He wakes up in the morning for morning sex but that’s just about it & that too he’ll jerk himself off after a little while. I don’t know what to think? Is he not sexually attracted to me or is he gay? You’d think he’ll end it because it’s still a fairly new relationship. He’s made me feel really insecure and made me feel I’m not sexually appealing. Your advice?
12. August 2018
I understand what you mean. During the honeymoon period you expect you and your partner to be all over each other.
Was he always like this or is your libido higher than his?
He could be gay, he could also just not be sexually attracted to you at certain times.
The best thing to do is talk to him about how you feel!
Hello Oloni, I have somewhat of an issue with my new partner I would describe myself as an extreme introvert but he’s a little more outgoing than me, just a little bit anyway Anyway he had mentioned that he plans on going carnival with his friends & from what I understand from my girlfriends who have went to carnival (&pls do mistake me if I’m wrong bc I’ve never attended carnival) but isn’t it mostly for securing whines, meeting other people etc? I genuinely do trust him & I would go with him if we were in the same city but I don’t understand why he would go? Also, I have mentioned it to him & he had said he is 100% going because of culture/tradition/food lol What advice can you give me?
12. August 2018
Heya hun! Lots of people in relationships go to carnival. You shouldn’t have anything to worry about, unless your partner has given you a reason.
Notting Hill carnival is a huge celebration that happens yearly and .. yes, there is a lot dancing, but it’s a carnival… It’d be weird if there wasn’t.
If you have particular boundaries you don’t want your boyfriend to cross, express it to him.. or just go with him!
Oloni
Hi there, basically my partner and I had our first child about 18 months ago. She’s gained some weight (nothing drastic) but she’s suuuper self conscious about it. She was a real gym freak before hand so I can understand why she might feel a way about it but she still looks amazing and I remind her of this often. Not long ago she told me that she wanted to go to DR for lipo. She had done loads of research and seemed to have her heart set on it. She only works part time to it in with caring for our son and so has said that I should pay for it. We make all financial decisions together and I feel no way about the whole “my money is ours” kind of things because we are family. However I think this is just a criminal waste of money, completely unnecessary and nothing more than a vanity project. When i said no she got really rude and she still wont let it go and at this stage I have no clue what to say to her.
12. August 2018
You’re going to have to compromise some way. No matter what her reasoning for it is, this is clearly something that will help build her confidence especially after having a baby and it sounds as though she’s very commited to this cosmetic procedure. Try having another conversation with her about it. With what she’s gone through it just sounds like she really needs your support.
Oloni
Oloni hopefully you see this soon, but my boyfriend just sent me bare angry texts cus apparently i’m “thirsting” over tion waynes dick print pics. I liked one tweet which he screenshotted and sent me. It said something like “imagine getting backshots from tion wayne all kinds of guts would get touched” I didn’t even tweet it. We’ve been together for only 5 months and now he aint answering my calls. What should I do?
8. August 2018
Heya love! You have to talk about boundaries with your partner of what is and isn’t acceptable. Being in the relationship for x amount of months doesn’t matter. As soon as you become exclusive there are things you can and can’t really do. As long as he keeps the same energy it’s all good. Call him tomorrow and have a conversation about it.
I asked my bf for money and he’s been quiet for 2 days. Ignoring me. Was I wrong? And am I wrong in thinking he could atleast have responded and said he doesn’t want to rather than go mia? Also what should I do now
8. August 2018
I don’t get why he went quiet, surely he could have simply said yes or no. Give him some time and see what he has to say.
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