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Hi Oloni, two months ago I broke up with my ex boyfriend after I found out he had cheated on my twice with a girl he had claimed was just a friend. During our one year relationship he gave me laptop to help me get through this year at uni. However now he is claiming he wants it back. Usually I wouldn’t hesitate to give it back but a month ago when I tried to give it back he said I can keep it. Now all of a sudden he has changed his mind. Another reason why I feel like I shouldn’t give it back is because during our relationship, I paid for a romantic 5* holiday for his birthday. He knew how hard I worked to pay for this holiday and he still continued to cheat. He claimed that he wasn’t feeling the relationship even before I booked the holiday but failed to tell me. He insisted that I book this holiday which I think was very selfish. Personally I want to sell the laptop and get my money back from the holiday but he is threatening to get the police involved. What should I do?
29. May 2015
My dear, he was a jerk I understand that, but it seems like you’re just after revenge. You offered to give the laptop back before calculating past expenses, plus it’s his property. Just give it back, don’t sell it. I don’t need to see a Simply Oloni reader on Judge Judy. Give him the laptop and just learn fron this experience.
Do you think it is sad to be 19 and never have a boyfriend, not by choice?
29. May 2015
Of course not. There are amazing wonen who are in their mid 20’s and have never been commited to. Download my eBook to pick up some tips to get you out there. 100 Questions
Hi Oloni, just want to start off saying I love your blog and always sparks debates with me and my friends.
29. May 2015
Thank you x
Hi. I am scared that my boyfriend might be gay. I am very feminine and we have been together for almost a year. But he says weird stuff like telling his male friend to suck his dick, which I don’t really find funny. He has asked for me to do anal once, but I declined and he has not asked again. A friend of mine is gay and I hypothetically asked if he could ever see himself in a homosexual relationship, to which he said that nothing is certain and that no one can predict where they will end up:/. He acts like a “normal” black guy, but do you think he could be gay?? This is a big issue for me as being with someone who is unsure of their sexuality is definitely not for me!
29. May 2015
Hey! Many straight men do enjoy anal sex and many women enjoy receiving it. I understand why you feel this way as there are other signs that show why you’d be unsure of his sexuality. What I think you should do is talk to him about and ask him to be open and honest with you. See how that works and make your own decision as to whether or not you’d like to continue the relationship.
I’m getting married in a few months, but I think I still have feelings for my first love. I’ve always thought we would get back together in future, however things didn’t turn out that way and I’m now questioning myself if I’m fully over my first love, don’t get me wrong I love my fiancé but there’s still something in the back of my mind wondering what if. I still speak to him and we’re good friends and that’s why it’s confusing for me
28. May 2015
Hey love! You should think about getting married very carefully if you’re whole heart isn’t entirely in it. Having cold feetvis common, but thinking about another love whilst you’re about to make the biggest commitment of your life is not.
Speak to your fiance, and do not say ‘I do’ if you don’t.
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