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Been with my boyfriend for just under two years now. When we were chatting last month, I made a comment about how I caught an STI when I was 16 (6 years ago). Obviously I dealt with the matter immediately. I have been completely clean since. I feel as though me telling him has put him off me. He isn’t intimate with me anymore and I keep finding him looking at me in disgust. I feel like breaking up with him before he breaks up with me. I can’t believe an STI I had 6 years ago is destroying our relationship. I love him & I can’t handle this feeling of feeling like a dirty little girl anymore.. What do I do??
27. May 2015
You did nothing wrong by being honest with him. Most STI’s are cureable after taking prescribed pills or an injection and if you’ve been clean since he’s clearly still in shock.
Talk to him about how you feel since opening up? And remember thousands of sexually active young people under the age of 25 have been in your position.
Hi Oloni, I’m 24, been with my girlfriend for 4 years and I plan on proposing to her on our anniversary. Since we finished Uni I’ve been working and she hasn’t because I found a good job and she doesn’t really need to. However, recently I’ve noticed that she’s been putting on weight. I thought she was probably just bored at home so I asked her to find a job or something to do during the day and come to the gym with me but she refused. 6 months ago I got a personal chef to live with us who said that when I leave for work my girlfriend wouldn’t eat the healthier food. Fitness is very important to me and I feel if this keeps going it’s a dealbreaker. How do I encourage my girlfriend to live a healthier lifestyle?
27. May 2015
You talk to her about it and let her know your concerns with her health and living a healthier lifestyle in general. It’s nice you went out of your way to support her ao now you have to think of others ways to make this work if this is a deal breaker for you.
Hi Oloni. I am in a interracial relationship with an Asian man. The relationship is amazing he treats me well, his family love me (many said they wouldn’t) he’s everything I could ask for in a man. However in the bedroom everything is not so great, his penis is small and I find myself faking a lot of noises even orgasms. I can’t bare having bad sex forever as I feel I will end up being tempted to stray and cheat, what should I do please?
27. May 2015
It’s really up to you to decide. You can try a different routine to spice up your sex life, but don’t make fake noises just to appease his ego. Bad sex can be a deal breaker for some people, so as mentioned before it’s up to you to decide.
I met a guy who at first I didn’t like because I wasn’t sure how to handle a full in guy. He told me he likes me and wants me etc & never made me feel like he just wanted to sex me. But with time and more invested emotions I asked where this was going and he said he isn’t looking for a commitment but he likes me more than friends. I feel like we won’t be talking much no more but I don’t want to be the girl who is just there , I want him but you can’t force a commitment can you?
27. May 2015
No you can’t force it. Commitment has to be something he wants naturally, so let this ship sail and continue dating without putting too much of yourself into it.
This isn’t a relationship question but I just wanted to let you know that you’re so amazing! I hope you end up doing your radio show because you could truly be bigger than #ontopictalkshow. Keep up the good work! We love you <3
27. May 2015
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