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Hey Oloni. I’m a 20 year old female, I’m a virgin and I’ve never had a boyfriend. Honestly I don’t know how it happened. No, I am not fat and I would not consider myself ugly. This may seem very bizarre but I know I’m not the only one out there in this position. Its hard because sometimes I feel so horny that I just want to give my virginity to anyone but it’s not just about sex. I really would like a guy I can trust and talk to. How do you suggest I meet guys and make myself more available?
3. June 2015
My dear you need to have a goooood read through my eBook 100 Questions.
Hi Oloni, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a couple months and things are great. However I’ve noticed that she still seems to maintain contact with people she’s dated or has been with in the past. I don’t know if this is normal seeing as I tend to cut people off and it makes em rather uncomfortable. Am I overreacting or is this just what I should expect ?
3. June 2015
All relationships are different so if it bothers you speak up about it.
Hi Oloni, I’ve been best friends with this boy for two years now. Recently we admitted to eachother that we had feelings for one another and we had kissed but he has a girlfriend. I feel so guilty but at the same time I don’t because it feels so right yet I still feel guilty! I don’t know what to do, we talk 24/7and feelings are getting deeper- it’s becoming complicated. What do I do?
3. June 2015
He has a girlfriend. You leave the situation. How are you able to take him seriously if he’s messing with you whilst in a relationship?
Dear Oloni.. I’m a 21 y/o practising vegan. I’ve always been veggie but I ‘upgraded’ to vegan since I fell pregnant in 2010. My ‘baby father’ (who I never actually dated) plays a very active role in our sons life. But wen he’s with him, he gives him meat..LOTS of it. I’ve explained to him so many times my reasons. My family are Rastafarian (Guyanese)& have told me I shouldn’t allow him to go to his dads, since he sent me pictures of my son eating a pork sausage hot dog out of spite. Each time I talk to him, he gives him more meat. He is Nigerian & i’ve not heard of most of the dishes he is feeding my child.. But my good friend who is Nigerian has told me that the food he is giving my son is not ideal for a 4year old. doctors have said my boy is obese for his age. Do you think I should stop him from seeing my son? he has hinted that becoming a couple is the only way our child will remain meat-free.. But I don’t want to be with him. What do I do?
2. June 2015
Right so in order for you to both co-parent properly, you’re going to have to TALK, this means telling him what the doctors told you and asking what are in the dishes he feeds your child. You have to compromise but also make sure he has a healthy diet. In a sense you both have a say in what your child can eat. I don’t suggest you stop him from seeing his father, but I do suggest you nip his suggestive remarks about ‘becoming a couple to change both your sons eating habits’ in the bud.
Hey, i have been dating this guy since christmas of last year and it is going great, or was going great. Sometime around April he met this girl and they seem to be getting a bit too close for comfort. She is always around his house but he has other friends there so i don’t want it to seem like i’m being annoying. Just recently he took a trip to atlanta with his friends and next thing i know she tags along. To make matters even worse one of my friends who has her on snapchat sent me some screenshots of her lying naked in bed next to him and another of him just wrapped in the bed sheet. Her snapchat story is full of her grinding on him and licking on him and it makes me really uncomfortable.She also taunts me on social media constantly by putting up pictures of them together and when she does this she somehow manages to follow me and unfollow me on twitter which is clearly intentional just to make sure i see her posts. It is really starting to get on my nerves and i’ve talked to him about it and he says it’s no big deal. what do you think? am i being paranoid or just stupid for letting all this slide?
2. June 2015
He’s clearly seeing this other chick and if it’s making you uncomfortable..cut him loose. Yes you’re not commited but these actions are still very disrespectful. She knows what she’s doing & it’s clear he has no problem with it, so move on. I’ll make this a #QOTD in a few minutes.
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