My heart goes out to you completely. You are not unloveable & you are NOT destroyed. There are several ways around this and you are not the only one going through this alone. Many women & men are living with herpes and in loving relationships.

You need to let him be aware of what he has done and cut all ties with him immediately. If he does appear at your door, simply call the police so that he never returns.

If you do need to speak about this more feel free to e-mail me itsOloni@gmail.com

You were in a relationship, you had no business sending someone a nude despite how unhappy things were at the time. He’s honestly still not over it & I think he tried before he cut things off again. Reach out to him and try and  voice how you feel and also ASK how he feels. I do hope you can both work it out, it’s quite common for women to lean on the shoulder of another man once things get rocky, but you must always try your hardest to remove yourself from such scenarios.

Call him and talk, ask him directly.

Sending a nude to someone outside your relationship is cheating, yes. Cheating is not only classified under sexual intercourse, but emotionally and the intent of suggestive conversations.

You can express how uncomfortable it makes you, but that’s it. If YOU do not like it, simply stop having sex with him.