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I’m getting married in a few months, but I think I still have feelings for my first love. I’ve always thought we would get back together in future, however things didn’t turn out that way and I’m now questioning myself if I’m fully over my first love, don’t get me wrong I love my fiancé but there’s still something in the back of my mind wondering what if. I still speak to him and we’re good friends and that’s why it’s confusing for me
28. May 2015
Hey love! You should think about getting married very carefully if you’re whole heart isn’t entirely in it. Having cold feetvis common, but thinking about another love whilst you’re about to make the biggest commitment of your life is not.
Speak to your fiance, and do not say ‘I do’ if you don’t.
Can you please answer my question on the clingy guy
28. May 2015
Post it again.
(New to this site, please answer) I’m in a dilemma. It’s probably obvious what to do but I just don’t think I can do it. So the guy I’ve been with for 2 and a half years (known him for 3) has changed so much. Like he used to be that sweet guy, treat me right etc however last year we started having a lot of arguments. Also to mention and don’t judge. He’s 27 and I’m 19. Probably a shock for some but he’s not like a pedo or what not pretty sure I would know about it. He’s generally so kind but things have fucked up. 1) me finding out he was on a dating site. He made out like his friends made it as a joke. Some friends they are. Obviously I made a big deal and wasn’t happy, left him after 2 months he came back all sorry and that and stupid me believes him. So then I got back with him and less arguments found he was still using it and adding pictures! This time he told me the app synchs with Facebook so silly me forgives him again. I know I should’ve told him to chose at that moment between me and the dating site but silly me wasn’t thinking. I love him too much to leave him he did treat me right but yeah kinda just pushed all that to the back of my mind and now after 3 months again we got back theory and things are calm, he’s not using that site but idk something doesn’t feel right. Whenever I talk to him it’s like talking to a brick wall and nothing ever gets resolved; hence us arguing all the time before. I just don’t know what to do. He goes out clubbing and stuff on weekends which fair play after a week of work it’s stressful I understand. HOWEVER. How do I know what he’s doing? The trust issues of the whole dating site scenario has lead me to believe all sorts. He likes girls pics on Insta and follows them which is another things that I just had to let go. When I’m with him tho things are different. It’s like a whole different guy. You can tell he cares does nice things buys me food whatever but I’m starting to think he’s using me for one things? We barely see each other! He thinks seeing me every 2/3 months is acceptable and he lives like a 35 minute drive from me!!! I’m starting to think when it suits him when he wants something he’ll message me and then be like yeah let’s link. I’ve had enough and it’s stressing me out. I don’t know what to do. I need advice?
27. May 2015
Girl, he is is playing you.. do the right thing and leave. I lost count with all the red flags he’s shown and I can tell YOU are fed up.
Oloni, I’m 18 and I’ve never had a boyfriend, never had my first kiss or even been on a date… I have many guys who approach me and are trying to take me on dates on a regular basis but I just feel really anxious about going so I always end up cancelling! What’s wrong with me Oloni? I really want to go out on these dates, experiment, see what I like and don’t like but my fear is just getting in the way! I’m not quite sure what I’m afraid of; I’m not sure if it’s maybe because I don’t have the experience! It’s so frustrating. I don’t know what to oloni, please help! Thank-you in advance! – Melissa
27. May 2015
You’re not the only 18 year old who has never been kissed Melissa, so RELAX girl.
If you want to experience the dating world, you have to go on a date. It’s probably to do with the fact that the men who are asking are probably the ones you’re not THAT interested in. You’ll be fine, especially when it’s someone you feel comfortable around.
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend keeps on posting a picture of a certain girl on his instagram and each time i confront him he says she’s a close friend. The last time he posted her picture we had a huge fight and he promised he wouldn’t do it again. We are currently in a long distance relationship and he keeps on saying we wants a future both of us however i’m having my doubts on this girl. Could she really be a close friend or am I the side chick cause he has never posted anything online about our relationship.
27. May 2015
He could be a private person. There are so many relationships that are not displayed, however I can understand why you’re second guessing yourself. So speak to him about it & explain your concerns.
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