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Hi oloni,I met this amazing guy about a month ago.nothing serious,we have had sex and we like each other’s company.I got involved with him because we were both single thou .Things were going good until yesterday.he just told me yesterday that his ex came to see him and apparently she wants to get back together.i asked him what he wanted to do and he said he doesn’t know.ill be graduating in 2months thou,I just wanna have fun.no drama intended.but I don’t wanna share him with his ex either 🙁 .should I leave before he makes his decision because tbh I think he doesn’t know what to do.i also told him I can’t be cool with him if he got back together with her
31. May 2015
Hey love! You’ve been honest with your feelings about the situation and right now all you can do is carry on living your life especially if he’s not sure what he wants to do. He’s explained that his ex has returned to the picture so now it’s totally up to you decide on whether or not you want to remain in it.
Hi Oloni, two months ago I broke up with my ex boyfriend after I found out he had cheated on my twice with a girl he had claimed was just a friend. During our one year relationship he gave me laptop to help me get through this year at uni. However now he is claiming he wants it back. Usually I wouldn’t hesitate to give it back but a month ago when I tried to give it back he said I can keep it. Now all of a sudden he has changed his mind. Another reason why I feel like I shouldn’t give it back is because during our relationship, I paid for a romantic 5* holiday for his birthday. He knew how hard I worked to pay for this holiday and he still continued to cheat. He claimed that he wasn’t feeling the relationship even before I booked the holiday but failed to tell me. He insisted that I book this holiday which I think was very selfish. Personally I want to sell the laptop and get my money back from the holiday but he is threatening to get the police involved. What should I do?
29. May 2015
My dear, he was a jerk I understand that, but it seems like you’re just after revenge. You offered to give the laptop back before calculating past expenses, plus it’s his property. Just give it back, don’t sell it. I don’t need to see a Simply Oloni reader on Judge Judy. Give him the laptop and just learn fron this experience.
Do you think it is sad to be 19 and never have a boyfriend, not by choice?
29. May 2015
Of course not. There are amazing wonen who are in their mid 20’s and have never been commited to. Download my eBook to pick up some tips to get you out there. 100 Questions
Hi Oloni, just want to start off saying I love your blog and always sparks debates with me and my friends.
29. May 2015
Thank you x
Hi. I am scared that my boyfriend might be gay. I am very feminine and we have been together for almost a year. But he says weird stuff like telling his male friend to suck his dick, which I don’t really find funny. He has asked for me to do anal once, but I declined and he has not asked again. A friend of mine is gay and I hypothetically asked if he could ever see himself in a homosexual relationship, to which he said that nothing is certain and that no one can predict where they will end up:/. He acts like a “normal” black guy, but do you think he could be gay?? This is a big issue for me as being with someone who is unsure of their sexuality is definitely not for me!
29. May 2015
Hey! Many straight men do enjoy anal sex and many women enjoy receiving it. I understand why you feel this way as there are other signs that show why you’d be unsure of his sexuality. What I think you should do is talk to him about and ask him to be open and honest with you. See how that works and make your own decision as to whether or not you’d like to continue the relationship.
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