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Hi Oloni, I asked the question on me seeing a guy for 10 months and there being no official title, thank you so much for answering but you said “If you’re behaving like his girl, he has no reason to make it official” I just wanted to know what did you mean.. So he doesn’t need to put a title because I’m already doing things like his girl without it?? Let me know, I want to ask him about it but don’t want come at him the wrong way. 🙁
2. June 2015
You’re acting as something when you’re not, which is the title of his girlfriend stop doing that and yes, talk to him about it. If he doesn’t want to take it there, then leave.
Hey Oloni Basically I dated this girl for 3months but the relationship was horrible because I didn’t have a job and I was struggling to get one in the field I was going too, she kept talking down on because I wasn’t a business minded person and compare me to her friends that already making it plus them how lazy I was. In March I broke up with her because I couldn’t take it anymore then the following day we had sex and I found out that she been sending nudes to her ex and they are still taking and this was the ex that she told me he treated her badly and slapped her across the street for dating me. We had sex on the 10th and on 15th mother day she told me she was pregnant, in my mind I said that no possible because we hardly had sex and that day was the first time we did it in our 3months relationship. Cut the long story short I found out she lied about it, the same way she lied about having cancer. She ran back to her EX and now the guy keeps making threats to me and she keeps calling me on & off when I call her back she keeps saying I don’t have your number that she didn’t call me. Have lost a good friend of mine because of her and she going on about her life without guilt over her shoulder because what she did to me. The last time she called I told her boyfriend about it but he didn’t really care at all. What should i do if she keeps calling me and playing all this childish games?
2. June 2015
This is so messy! Cancer is not something you lie about and she clearly has a few screws loose. You need to find out if she IS pregnant, and if the child may be yours regardless of the math you’ve done. I understand you don’t want to speak with her, but you need to talk to her and get to the bottom of things. Once that is resolved or if she still chooses to play childish games it’s 2015, you can block numbers with your eyes close.
Me and my boyfriend of three years broke up, I was so upset n angry I ended up having sex with someone else. Now it seems like me and my boyfriend are working thing out again but I literally thought we were done for good when we broke up. Anyway question is, do I tell him what happened with this other guy? I don’t think he’ll get over it. He was the only person I had sex with until recently. I feel like the thought of me being with someone else will hurt him. But he broke up me and left me in a state.
1. June 2015
You weren’t together, so what you did out of a relationship is not his business. I understand you might feel like it’s a secret, so if you want to tell him, it’s totally down to you. I just don’t see anything positive coming out of it.
Hi Oloni.. I’ve been with my boyfriend for one and a half years and I love him dearly. We’re very close (inseparable) and I feel this will last a long time (well at least I’m hoping so). We’re both Nigerian and our families have gotten quite close too with the expectation of marriage in the near future. However, on several occasions he’s “joked” about having multiple wives and normally I reply in a humorous way but the fact that he keeps joking about it is worrying me. So he said it again last week and my reply was obviously out of annoyance because I don’t agree with people having multiple partners especially in marriage. I told him that if he feels the need to have multiple wives then I definitely won’t be one of them. His reaction to my reply was slightly harsh, he seemed upset that I find that abnormal. Is this a bad sign that he might cheat or do something I don’t agree with now or in the future? I’ve already tried speaking to him about it and it just ended in an argument without resolution. I just want to know your view on this. Thank you.
1. June 2015
He is the only one laughing at his bad joke. You did the right thing by talking to him about it, but I think you need to discuss it again. If it seems apparent that he may want a polygamous relationship in the future, then you need to cut.
So I’ve been seeing this guy for about 9/10months but were still not official. We do things like a couple, I stay at his house often, we go out on dates etc, I’ve even met his mum, but he keeps saying he wants to take this slow and not force anything… I haven’t asked him the infamous “what are we?” question, but had spoke to him on something similar a few months back… I just want to know if I’m wasting time or do you think he’ll come around? Is 10 months seeing each other too long? Should I be his girl already? Please answer Oloni.
1. June 2015
If you’re behaving like his girl, he has no reason to make it official. Have another talk. It’s so weird when people say ‘we act like a couple’ because making it official after 9/10 months will not leave him missing one leg, what does he have to lose?
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