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Hey, I’m what you would call fat/ overweight, whatever. Whenever I’m approached by a guy, after collecting my number they make it clear that sex is on their mind. I’ve never had a bf, nor have I had sex b4. My question is how do I find the right guy withou settling out of fear of being alone?
14. August 2015
You should never have the fear of being alone due to your appearance. I know many bigger women in relationships.. some who are in the happiest marriages. You need to switch your scene and stop giving your time to the wrong type of guys.
Hi oloni! I have been single for 2 years now and have met guys here and there but nothing really developed into anything serious. I want to meet new people but just don’t know where to find them. All my friends are in relationships and I kinda feel like the outsider
14. August 2015
Date with a purpose and not because you’re friends have boyfriends. Get my eBook 100 questions there are tips there.
I’ve recently started dating after such a long break from a hurtful relationship. A couple dates in with this particular guy i’m really feeling, i admited that i have a fuck buddy. The guy asked if we had slept together whilst we have been dating. I gave him the honest answer, which is yes. The guy ive been dating now want talk to me & has blanked me out. What do i do?
14. August 2015
Ugh, you’ve probably spoilt your chances. You got too personal, he didn’t need to know all of that. Try talking and asking if there’s a problem. See what he says.
Hi, I just wanted to say I really love what you do and keep and the good work. I’ve got a little dilemma, i thought you might be able to help. I’ve been with my be for nearly 9 months now and im a virgin and I want to keep it that way till I get married. I’ve told him this and he says he agrees but everything we get together he tries to touch me up and do all sorts. Whenever I’ve asked him why he admits and says he needs to have them things. I really want to get past this problem, should I just have sex with him or keep to my ground. There’s no particular reason why I don’t want to, not any religious reason or anything I just want to wait until marriage
14. August 2015
He needs to respect your decision. If you don’t want to have sex, then explain it to him again. Only get intimate when you’re ready. That could be marriage or tomorrow.
Hi Oloni, I wrote you a while back regarding my girl thinking she was entitled to go through my phone and generally just being invasive. Well about 6 weeks after that it all came to a head when I saw her going through my phone texting all the unsaved numbers asking “who’s this?”. What’s worse if she told me she did it in a way where I was supposed to be in trouble! I of course promptly left the relationship and told her to go and fix herself. Question is in the last few weeks we have been out a few times. On one occasion she opened up to me about how she knows how wrong it is to be so intrusive etc etc. How seriously should I take her? Given its not been long and I’m the type of person who wont put up with any of that going through my phone ish at all.
14. August 2015
Well the power is in your hands, do you forgive her? Can you forgive her? Think about and talk to her about it. If this is something you can move past then discuss again what you wont put up with.
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