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Hey. what is your take on having a friend with benefits? I have been considering it a lot lately because I’m single and bored of my life. Just need someone to entertain me you know. I do not want to be in a relationship at the moment. Would you suggest I pursue this friend with benefits thing? I mean it seems bad because the guy I do it with will not are about me but does that matter. Sorry for ranting but I’m struggling to express what I’m asking.
31. August 2015
There’s nothing wrong with having a FWB so long as you know yourself well enough to not catch feelings. Don’t choose someone you have a great relationship with as it can just potentially ruin it. Be safe and get tested!
Hey Oloni, recently I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months and he’s kind of been indicating that he wants to take this to the next level and have sex. It’s seems like pretty much every time we hang out at his place or mine he always makes an attempt to get me in bed. I really really like him but I’m also really self-conscious of my body and I don’t feel confident enough for him to see me naked even though I kind of want to sleep with him as well. Im scared of what he’ll think when I take my clothes off. Am I just being too self-conscious? Help me please!
31. August 2015
You’re being very self-concious and that’s fine and also perfectly normal, you’re human! But you can break that down with time. The things I’d advise, is to leave your houses and make sure you do other things other than stay indoors and ‘chill’ it creates a temptation, one you don’t even seem too ready for. Sleep with him when you’re comfortable and ready.
Hey Oloni, so I came out of a 10 month relationship recently. I found out during this time my ex had got someone else pregnant & it was aborted which was a factor to the break up. However, 2 weeks after we broke up he started trying to talk to me again then he informed me that he has another baby on the way with another person which he is keeping meaning during our relationship there was more than one time of infidelity. He’s insisting that he can change but I’ve told him I can’t be with him, I mean who’s got time for baby mother drama and more cheating.. Is this the right decision?
31. August 2015
Hey oloni, so I’mcurrently sseeing someone but seems like he’s not 100% into it but I don’t want to let him go cos the sex is so good but then again he doesn’t treat me right and feelings are already there so it’s hard to just make it a fwb situation but I’ve spoken to him already about getting his act together..what should I do
31. August 2015
Nothing, you just said he’s not 100% into it. Move on.
I’ve been with my girl for about three years now and still there’s something about her I just can’t trust. She’s wayyyy too sneaky and intentionally will do things like lead guys on as a method of getting back at me, when ever I mess up. What should I do?
31. August 2015
Speak about it and give her a chance, or move on from the relationship.
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