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7. October 2015
Hi Oloni, I was on and off with my ex for about 2 years. We still talk and I still love him, but recently he told me he was now with somebody else. I was hurt but I thought it would be better to respect his new relationship and give him some space. However he still insists on making contact with me all the time and tells me how beautiful I’m looking. I don’t know whether to cut off all contact with him or try and remain friends.
7. October 2015
I think keeping a respectable distance would be best. Just think how you would feel if your new boyfriend had this same interaction with his ex girlfriend?
I met this guy about a month and a half ago going on two months. We literally speak like 3 times a day on the phone where he will call or I will but I enjoy speaking to him and he does to. However everytime I have brought up meeting up he always had an excuse and has never suggested us meeting and when he has he has flopped! The first time he mentioned me seeing him was when it was after midnight and I declined as I said it was too late for me m. What should I do as I don’t feel like I should have to keep asking to see someone that calls me everyday without fail.
7. October 2015
He’s not very serious and sounds slightly creepy. If he keeps cancelling, he must be hiding something, because this doesn’t add up.
Hi Oloni I’m 20 and will be giving birth early next year. The boy who got me pregnant cheated on his girlfriend and took my virginity .The girlfriend of around 2 years knows about the pregnancy because he told her however whilst telling her he has also lied about the whole situation. She has decided to stay with him but he has said he doesn’t want no involvement with the child and they have both claimed they don’t care about the situation. Which I know she clearly cares. However I feel as a women she is condoning what he has decided to do and I even feel like he won’t be involved even more because he’s scared of what she may think. What do you think?
7. October 2015
I think the whole situation is messed up and I understand your hurt, but remember she has nothing to do with it. This is between you and the soon to be father of your baby. If he’s saying he wants nothing to do with the pregnancy and the life you both created, that’s his very own selfish decision….no woman can force a guy to not care about the life of a child. . that’s all him.. all you needs to do right now is focus on you. Focus on your health and the babies. The relationship status between those him and her should be at the back of your mind. So keep yourself around family, keep yourself around friends, not those who don’t care.
Hi Oloni, I was in a situation with a guy that I once cared about. We separated but now he can’t stop bad mouthing me on social media. I’ve not said anything other than kind words or usually nothing at all. This is all really hurtful and it’s ruining my reputation. I know I’ve been nothing but great to this guy but we just couldn’t work. What can I do about this? Thanks
7. October 2015
It’s immature and he’s wrong for doing that. An approach you can take is calling or messaging asking him to stop. If he still proceeds sadly there isn’t anything you can do as it’s his social platforms, but use the block button so you don’t have to see it. Sooner or later he’ll realise that he just looks like the bitter ex. Plus the things he may be saying on social media speak more about his character than yours. What other woman is going to want to hitch up with him, if that’s how he behaves after a break up?
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