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There’s this guy I’ve been talking to for about 2 months now. At the beginning he treated me like a queen. I went on holiday for 2 weeks, during this time we stayed in touch. I’ve been back for a few days now and he’s been acting so strange with me. I don’t know what the problem is. He doesn’t answer my calls, doesn’t reply to my texts. I don’t know what to do
12. October 2015
Leave him alone and move on.
Just got back with my boyfriend after 10 months he dumped me cause he fell out of love now he’s back with me and we’ve slept with each other only twice and now he’s at uni far away from me and he just seems to give me the cold shoulder really long replies like in a day we would exchange maybe 2 texts, also bare in mind we are each others first sexual partners.
11. October 2015
Discuss things with him, however I doubt this is going anywhere.
I am currently in a relationship with a guy and have been for the past six months. We have previously discussed our sexual tastes and his differ quite a lot from my own. I am interested in exploring our bodies, learning one another’s turn ons & turn offs and introducing extras in the bedroom like toys and props etc.. Whereas he doesn’t feel it’s necessary and doesn’t understand why I feel that he should reciprocate my willingness to try new things such as ‘giving head’. I feel like our views on exploring our sexuality within our relationship differ quite a bit and am not sure how to overcome or deal with such boundaries?
11. October 2015
A lot of people find it hard to open up to different ideas in the bedroom. Some need a little push through tiny steps, such as introducing flavoured lube for example. You’re not asking to use a door jam, but he has to be open to it even if it’s a little bit. Try discussing why you enjoy experimenting in the bedroom and why it’s important you explore your sexuality. You can’t force him to reciprocate oral pleasure, but one thing I’m sure you don’t want to do is have sex when you’re not enjoying it.
I love my boyfriend and I’ve been with him for 3 years. The sex is good but since using my Rabbit I no longer want to have sex with him as the Rabbit seems damp near perfect. He has noticed the distance but doesn’t know about the Rabbit, what should I do. I love him and don’t want to hurt him but I’ve never felt as alive before.
11. October 2015
Try using your rabbit during the sex and as a part of foreplay.
Hi Oloni, my ex and I ended things almost 3 years ago now. Since then, we’ve still been flirting with eachother and we still have this connection that we both ignore. After we ended things, he got into a relationship with this girl that clearly did not like me but pretended to have no problem with. During his relationship with her, we would still talk but not as much. However there was still this strong connection. Fast forward to now, we still hang out and talk to eachother but we have never resolved our issues or talked about our feelings. I still love him but I don’t know how to tell him. What should I do?
11. October 2015
It’s been three years and you’re finding it hard to speak about your feelings to someone you were once with?What’s stopping you? And how strong are these feelings if t’s held you back for so long? I understand he was once on a relationship with someone else, but now he isn’t. Speak up, or be prepared to miss out again
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