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Hi Oloni, I just started talking to this guy and I’m falling for him. He seems that he likes me but his intentions are unclear at the moment. Would I be doing the right thing if I was to pursue anything with him? 20. October 2015

Ge to know him more and relax.

Hi Oloni! I have a male best friend who has been there for me this past year and we’re very close. But he does this thing where he makes future comments about us as a couple then asks as if he’s joking. I always talk to him about girls and he acts like it bothers him. I honestly believe if I wasn’t a 24 year old virgin then we would have had sex because we are attracted to each other. I just feel he’s not trying to be in a relationship with me because of that but honestly I just want him as a friend. I’ve tried telling him but he’s now ignoring me because I said I cherished his friendship. I don’t want to lose him but I don’t want to also give him hope when I know I don’t want a boyfriend right now. Yours sincerely, the confused best friend 20. October 2015

Hi Best Friend, the truth is you’re both confused and you need to speak to each other instead of thinking this isn’t happening, because of that and just guessing all together. Speak, talk have a chat and ask questions.

My boyfriend and I had a threesome with a friend of mine. Comepletely consensual it was fine. Recently she made me aware that she was pregnant with his child and I do not know what to do. She plans on keeping the child. He obviously wants to be with me and is in utter shock at this situation. What do I do? By the way, lesson learnt I know very well we should have had safe sex. 20. October 2015

This is very messy, and you’re right you should have used all means of protection. But this has now gone past that, there’s not much you can do as you’re not the one who’s pregnant. This is more than likely to have a huge impact on your friendship and your relationship, so what your left with now is how you’re going to treat the situation. Can you carry on the relationship and can you carry on the friendship?

Is LinkedIn The New Dating App? 17. October 2015

I threw this question out online the other day after being hit on via LinkedIn, the professional networking site. Not once either three times in one week. It was something like ‘Hey Babe, nice photo. Tell me a bit about yourself.’ Pardon? I rushed to my home page to see if LinkedIn had implemented a relationship status box similar to Facebook where mine may have read ‘Single & ready to mingle with any guy who’s wearing a suit in his display photo’ and as suspected, it didn’t.

So why were all these guys hitting on me and through LinkedIn?? LinkedIn?? It felt slightly awkward. Especially as I only sign in once every few days. If it were somewhere like Facebook, Twitter or EVEN Instagram I wouldn’t be writing this. But on LinkedIn women do not want to be oogled at. We’re there to connect with those who have a similar work ethic or are in…. read more HERE

It seems like I can never get a guy to take things to the relationship stage, I’ve tried everything from holding out on the sex for a while to giving it up when prompted (sex isn’t too much of a big deal to me) yet it seems I can never get to that emotionally intimate stage with a guy. How can I ensure that my next endeavour will result in me being in a worthwhile relationship? 17. October 2015

Holding out or giving it up early won’t get you a man tomorrow. Relationships aren’t what they used to be like once upon a time so understand this and be patient, try to meet men who are more inclined to building something serious. Not the ‘Let’s just see where this goes’ fellas. Try dating more, meeting new guys from different places, don’t go for the guys you’d usually date. Make sure you’re doing something different to get a different result and REMEMBER, you must work on yourself and make sure, you’re the best version you can be. It’s no good asking for a person to settle down with, if you’re not a person who’s worth settling down with. Feel me?

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