It’s great that he enjoys pleasuring you, but not when it becomes a selfish act. You have to voice how you feel, there is a time and place, at work isn’t one of them.

It all depends on what he wasn’t honest about and whether or not it’s something you can honestly move past. 6-7 months is enough time to make things exclusive for a couple who’d like to be in a monogamous relationship. But first you have to decide if what he did affected the progression of your relationship.

He’s completely wrong and way out of line. It’s inappropriate and you have to tell him to stop his antics immediately. How would he feel if it was the other way around? His excuses are just as silly as his behaviour so I wont get into that. As for the things he says to you while you’re in bed, if that makes you uncomfortable then that needs to stop also, granted that it can be a fantasy of his and not something he truly wants  you need to discuss that also and emphasise how it makes you FEEL. I would suggest you both go for couples counselling

That’s not how this works dear. I pick the topic of discussion.

This is your decision, but you have to ask yourself why you’re giving things another go… Have you resolved your past issues? Is the relationship better? Does he make you happy? You also mentioned you had to trust issues but never said what caused it. Figure all these things out. Right now it seems like you’re in an on and off relationship and you’re clueless as to where the direction of it is going.