If there are feelings already involved and both of you are not on the same page (so assuming you want to move on and he wants a relationship) then there’s bound to be some hurt. However, one thing I’ve learnt is what makes these situations worse is a lack of transparency either from the start or during the most important parts of the “break up stage” . Consider this to be one of those important moments where that transparency is crucial. You need to be completely honest, do not leave the other person without telling them everything they need to know (this is assuming you care about their feelings). Finding out extra bs after a situationship brings the person who may have made progress in their healing back into the emotional mess you left them in. So the respectful thing to do is outline everything whilst applying a level of sensitivity but without twisting or watering down the truth. Don’t be selfish, tell them everything so they don’t find out from someone else and go on with your life. If there’s no hope for change don’t leave them without making it explicitly clear that this is the decision you have made and there’s no going back. Hope is what keeps people in situations they need to move on from.

-Ebi A

Not necessarily, but you need to make your sister very aware of the situation and it might be helpful to ask her why exactly she rejected him, she may know some things you don’t. At the end of the day you obviously care about your sisters feelings so I think it’s best you ask her if she’s okay with it. What you do from there is on you but it won’t be without consequences (assuming she’s not as supportive as you hoped).

Ebi- A

Hey,

It’s hard to tell the exact reason why you keep finding yourself in these situations as I don’t know you personally and there are endless possibilities. But one thing is for sure you need to believe in yourself and be confident in your game. Rejection happens to us all and irrespective of how consistently it happens what matters most is how you deal with it. Since you’ve mentioned you keep getting friend zoned maybe it would do you some good asking these ladies why they rejected you? Don’t be afraid to ask your female friends who know you best, they should be able to tell you whatever you need to know out of love and if they don’t they’re not a friend worth keeping. But finally, understand sometimes it’s not always an issue of approach or a representation of yourself, sometimes we’ve just been unlucky. But honestly when it’s meant for you it will be for you, contrary to how it feels, you’re still young with lots of time to learn more about yourself and women so take it easy on yourself, explore, experiment, try new things until you get it right.

-Ebi A

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I can’t tell you how to feel, but what I can do is let you know that you’re not the only 21 year old virgin. It’s very normal, despite who’s sexually active around you. Sex isn’t something you rush into, so don’t allow the pressure of society rush you into something you’re not ready for. RELAX. I promise you, sex is not going anywhere so take your time. You can still explore your sexuality even if you are a virgin.