Hey I agree with you 5 months is definitely enough time to know where the both of you are going. It seems like he may not want what you do, and if after 5 months he’s unsure, then it’s a red flag. When coaching women who have been in this position I’ve often advised them to leave, because before you know it this will turn into a year and become a lot harder for you to leave. Wise up hun and don’t get played.

-Oloni

It sounds like you’ve already got your mind made up, but sleeping with your ex’s friend is not always the best move. It just seems messy, and something which could spark off a whole lot of unnecessary drama. What’s happened has already happened however, but worrying over the number of men you’ve slept is not a reason to carry on having sex with the same person, especially if the position you’re in isn’t the greatest.

-Oloni

SIGN UP HERE

Yeah, the both of you are way too friendly. Yes, she’s probably happy that her bf is getting on with one of her friends for once, but there’s a huge line that you’re both crossing. You’re entertaining his nonsense, even though you can tell some of the things he’s saying seem inappropriate. You need to let her know that her boyfriend is being suggestive, but you also need to stop speaking to him. What I’m confused by is the screenshots you admitted your friend comes to you for??? So has she or she not seen his mess??? – If you like your friend you will distance yourself from her boyfriend. I get the feeling that he’s trying to create an emotional connection between you and him. All the ‘he wont tell her stuff because she’s too judgy’. etc. seems like BS to make you feel a particular way.

– Oloni

No guy is the same and may even go about it in different ways. The most obvious is if he’s asking you to come around and ‘chill’… If he hasn’t been clear with what he wants with you after several months and you’re just sleeping together, chances are he’s only in it for the physical. It really does vary, just pay attention to the red flags.

– Oloni