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Hi,oloni do you think there’s any legit reason why your boyfriend shouldn’t compliment you? I mean sometimes you just want to hear you look “beautiful” mine doesn’t and it’s annoying sometimes. What do you suggest ?
1. June 2016
Hey! There isn’t really a good reason. Have a chat with him.
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Hi Oloni, been with my guy 5 years and we have a kid, we live together and argue basically every other day, he also cheated on my whilst I was on holiday and my dad was sick in hospital he actually persuaded me to go even though I didn’t want to. I found out by randomly checking his phone whilst he was asleep and I saw all sorts of stuff, I forgave him it’s been a while now, but I recently checked his phone and history of him deleting messages on his Facebook and messages from girls, what should I do, I’m tired I have no social life anymore I’ve gained weight and feel so insecure about myself. Please help 🙁
1. June 2016
Hey love, if your boyfriend is constantly cheating on you or entertaining other women I’m a firm believer in leaving these situations. You clearly don’t trust him and I don’t blame you he’s not to be trusted. Never settle for an unhappy relationship. If you ever want to talk about this, book a call with me here: https://simplyoloni.com/product/private-scheduled-call-session/
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Hey Oloni ! My boyfriend is a really good guy and he treats me like a queen. Everything is going well in the relationship so far except one thing. He is a virgin and wants to wait until marriage but I am not and I believe sex can bring a couple closer in a relationship. I respect his wishes but I feel like at some point I just will really have the urge to want to have sex. I’ve thought about having a side dude but I feel like that might be disrespectful and I love him too much to hurt him ! What should I do ?
1. June 2016
Hey hun, whatever you do please do not go looking for sex outside of you commitment, it’s wrong and very disloyal. I do agree that sex can bring a couple closer and he probably feels the same, but would rather wait to take that next step when he’s married. Have a conversation with him, then have one with yourself. If you feel like sex is important to you, you might need to reconsider this relationship.
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Hi Oloni, i’m really struggling. I’m 18 nearly 19 and got involved with a boy that was no good for me, cheated lied emotional abuse etc. We’ve been on/off for around 2 years now and last year he got me pregnant and i had to have an abortion. Stupidly I took him back early this year but it was over again within a month, found out i was pregnant again, unfortunately miscarried around a month or so ago. Told him recently when I felt like I was ready and he ignored all texts or communication I attempted. I’m so disappointed and hurt, I just want to know I can move on and be happy and forget about this lowlife!! Please help 🙁
1. June 2016
Wow girl, I’m so sorry to hear about what you’ve been through and I really don’t think this is something can be resolved in a single reply. So if you can, pick up the phone and make a booking with me through here: https://simplyoloni.com/product/private-scheduled-call-session/
Hi Oloni, I really hope you reply because I’ve ran out of options on who to confide in without disrespecting my boyfriends privacy. We’ve been together for a 5 months. It’s great, his soul fits mine. but since our sexual activity has increased, so had his insecurity about the size of his dick (5 inches). I’m not talking about a bitch boy whining about his size. I’m talking hysterical fits, suicidal thoughts, talking about burning his dick off, up until 5am researching about surgery. 100s of £ spent on penis pumps. He actually asked me to measure my vaginal canal when I’m aroused so he has a “goal” to achieve. He’s asked me to use “toys” (strap on, dildos etc) during our sexual activity until he can “improve himself”. He is a medical student so he knows inside of me better than I do and uses it against me whenever I try to tell him life isn’t all about “reaching past the cervix Into the posterior fornix”. I don’t know what to do anymore. Should he see a therapist, if so a sex therapist or a self esteem/self confidence therapist? As the more he picks himself apart on his penis size, he moves onto other things like his body and face. He is VERY attractive with a very muscly body and nobody would believe me if I told them he hated the way he looked. Should I give into toys during sexual intercourse until he is more mentally happy with his body? Or is this a dead end?
26. May 2016
Hey dear, I can tell you really love your boyfriend and you’re running out of patience, but I do believe he should get some professional help as nothing I can say will help this situation…especially since you mentioned he’s having suicide thoughts. He should see a therapist and a sex therapist (they deal with these issues very well) and perhaps this is something you can probably do with him to show even more support, he needs you so if you can.. please do try and be there for him. As for the sex toy question, do whatever makes you comfortable.
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