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My boyfriend and 3 years wanted to explore an open relationship, at first I was hesitant but he convinced me. We had rules to adhere too, like we had to share who we were seeing. Take regular test. Funnily our relationship became stronger – fit a while anyway. We’ve been doing this since March. Now bare in mind I was Coerced into this situation. I didn’t take full of advantage of the situation until late July, i’ve been seeing one guy. He is absolutely beautiful and has soul to match. My problem lays in the fact that this other guy has caught feelings and it’s become more than just sex. I guess my bf has had some suspicion and now wants an exclusive relationship again after he has fucked half of his Instagram followers. He’s asked me to stop all contact with this guy but I know he’s still talking to some of his. I feel like I’m just holding onto the time we’ve spent but I also know that he is a good man and he does love me – is this just a hiccup?
21. October 2016
You and your boyfriend need to sit down and have another conversation about what you really want. You also need to take another sexual health test. If you have feelings for another person then you should let your boyfriend know, that’s the point of an open relationship. You’re open and if anything sexual or emotional from the outside gets involved, you have to say.
You might be going through the 80/20 rule with this other dude also, so instead you’re holding on to the tunnel vision of what you’ve experienced with him which is only 20% of him thinking it’s 100%. Either way you and your boyfriend need to pump your breaks and have a proper discussion as to what you both want.
Oloni
I’ve been out of a relationship for over a year now and I’m yet to be sexually intimate with anyone. I’m not ready to commit to anyone but I’ve met a guy that I have strong sexual desires for. I’ve never had sex outside a relationship so I’m not sure whether it’s a wise move or not. I’m 28 and feel like it shouldn’t be a problem, but feeling nervous!
18. October 2016
Hey hun, it really depends on you as a person. There are several of us that can swear up and down that feelings are never involved when sexually attracted to a guy, but it is possible for sexual attraction to turn into something more. I think you should only go for it, if you know what it means to have a friends with benefit. Do not go on a dates or meet up as friends outside of the bedroom. The only time you both contact each other, should only be for sex.
My sister introduced me to a guy she said was chasing her but she wasnt interested. She was actually a little obnoxious about it. I met him at a restaurant some time later and he told me it was me he likes, and he has been chasing me since. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t like him. He’s not attractive at all and clingy. But he has a lot of money to spend on me, and at this point in time, I need it. My sister doesn’t like him, but I feel like I shouldn’t encourage it. He’s been texting me since, he expects us to get together, which will never happen, but do I stay and get what I can(scammer style), or just ignore him totally.
18. October 2016
Lol leave this man and his money alone.
Oloni
Hello Oloni. I’ve been debating whether to ask you for advice but here goes. Basically, I feel so awful that I’ve slept with a guy on the first date (we are official now). He’s the third guy I’ve slept with but I literally feel like a hoe. Just couldn’t help how I felt at the time; I even initiated it to be fair and I have no idea why. He was talking about making me his girl before we even had sex, is this strange to you?
18. October 2016
I’m confused, you feel like a hoe because you chose to sleep with someone, a person you’re with? I think you’re overthinking things way too much. You initiated sex because you had sexual normal urges. This is the furthest thing away from being a slut dear.
Oloni
How should I hit up his boy? I’m really attracted to him but I’ve never been in a relationship or even the “talking” stage. I don’t want to pursue him too hard because I’m scared he’ll play me or reject me. How should I approach him? I have his number but I don’t know how to start texting him.
18. October 2016
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