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To get straight into it, my man refuses to go down on me, regardless of the fact I had never gave head before him and expressed it’s not something I wanted to do and YET now give him head for his pleasure because I care about pleasing him. It insults me that he can’t care about my needs to do the same as generally I get a lot more pleasure out of oral sex. It’s not a case where I’ve asked him and he has said no, but he has made jokes about how I won’t “ever be getting my pussy ate ever again” because I’m his now, obviously indicating he wouldn’t ever do it. I’m a shy person so I don’t feel comfortable just blurting out can you eat me out. But I am serious about him and I can’t lie it is an issue to me, especially as in all previous relationship I have received oral I am not used to it and he is making me feel undesirable and as though he doesn’t think I’m a beautiful creation which he bloody well should. I’ve no idea what I expect you to say but you seem to have a magical response to everything. Thanks
24. December 2016
Hey hun! Ahhh it’s so annoying when a guy doesn’t know what your body enjoys between the sheets. That comment he made though, ‘you won’t ever be getting your pussy ate again’ – So he’s basically aware that other men were giving you the full work while he’s doing the bare minimum lol?
Right, the answer to this is communication. I understand you’re shy, but shyness doesn’t mean your needs get to be ignored. Although you can’t force him to do what he may not feel comfortable with, someone you’re sleeping with regularly should know what your vagina enjoys most. You need to have more conversations about sex, so he knows it’s important to you too.
Good luck
Oloni
Hey Hun congrats on your Ebook loved reading it. All the best for the year ahead. I need your help. Broke up with mt ex a few months ago because I cannot trust him and after a year an half of constant arguments and fights I become to miserable to continue. The problem is we started taking again and us just talking is okay and I don’t wan to move it any further as I don’t see the point he wan to continue where we left off but I really can’t. When we talk I still see hints of his controlling behaviour and aggressiveness some of the reasons why I had to end the relationship. My issue now when I try to tell him he just ignore the topic or claim that I am talking to other people which I am or doing because he he broke my trust in people and I don’t want to be with anyone. I am nowhere near ready. He just cannot accept that I don’t want him or anyone I just wan to concentrate on my work and building my future. I feel really down when he says this this because I wish things were different but he was very hot tempered and and I don’t want to go back to that. Am happy where we are I don’t see him and only communicate via text and sometimes calls. Please I need your advise. I appreciate it very much.
24. December 2016
Hey love thank you.
Personally I think you should cut off all communication with your ex. Nothing great is going to come out of talking to him, even if you never see each other. It still gives him room to have a type of link with you. This also, stops you from moving forward.
Oloni
Hey oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year but I don’t like the way he talks to me at times. He’s amazing and genuinely loves me but sometimes speaks down to me or is really aggressive with his tone. “Yeah, I bet you’d go out looking like that” he passes stuff like this off as banter but I don’t like it and I’ve told him countless times but it’s like he doesn’t notice he’s even doing it anymore. What can I do please?
24. December 2016
If you’ve done all you can by telling him, there’s nothing else that I can say. You either stay and deal with it, or leave him since he won’t listen.
Oloni
I found out my sister slept with my bf, got pregnant with him and had an abortion. She confirmed the rumour is true and I can’t trust her anymore. What should I do?
21. December 2016
Wow. This type of betrayal would give anyone trust issues, but right now I think it’d be best if you kept your distance from her till you heal. I’d also also advise you to obviously dump your boyfriend. They both crossed a messy line.
Oloni
Hi, Oloni. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. In the beginning my parents tried to warn me about him. Since June things have been rough. I’m tired of him walking all over me. He is rude & his actions towards me are bad. He apologizes, is sweet, & this bad side of him comes out again & the cycle starts all over. I tell him how I feel, but he just ignores my feelings. One day he even told me his words & rude comments to me is my fault & him kicking me out his car on my birthday is my fault as well. I know in my mind I want to leave to better myself, but I feel guilty. I don’t want to feel like I’m giving up on 2 years & I only keep forgiving him hoping he will change. Every time I try to leave he only intimidates me by saying “you will never find someone like me” “you will never actually leave me” & “no one will put up with you like I have.” I know I just need to leave for myself because at this point I don’t respect myself because I put up with this behavior and he doesn’t either because he keeps hurting me. I guess my problem is actually knowing how to break up with him when I build up the courage.
21. December 2016
Darling, you need to work on your self esteem, you also need to love yourself, because a person who loves themselves will never allow another human being to speak to them this way. Your aim is to find someone who is the furthest thing from him, who will treat you completely different from how he has.
What your boyfriend is doing is making you feel weak and small so you don’t gain the strength to leave. He is bad news and this relationship has become unhealthy. I agree with your parents and say you need to drop him fast.
He doesn’t love you, he doesn’t care about you. He is emotionally abusive and doesn’t deserve to be with anyone.
If you need more advice on how to break up with him. Call me here
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