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Hi Oloni, I’ve got a very sticky situation and I’m not very comfortable with sharing this situation with anyone due to how awkward it really is. I’m extremely embarrassed about a situation with my ex. So I had a boyfriend who I can’t lie I settled for, yes he wasn’t a looker but I thought let’s give it a go, let’s give personality a chance. So we was together for 3 months. So it was good and bad and what not, a lot of ups and downs, but THEN! I find out him and my BESTFRIEND went on a BAECATION!!!! YES WHILE WE WERE TOGETHER! But hold on! My BESTFRIEND IS A MALE. So when I have confronted them, they said nothing happened, but then I saw a screenshot where my EX actually says to him he knows it might not be right but that’s how it feels for a reason! So through all this, I’ve tried to confront him about it for a while, almost wanting to admit that he’s bisexual, just for clarity purposes otherwise I cannot get over the fact I was some weird stop gap, not the fact I broke up with him, what do I do?
26. November 2017
I’m so confused, so your ex went on holiday with your friend? This is all types of mess. Please come back and expain further.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve just got into my first serious relationship and am not very sexual experienced. I want to pleasure my man, and do more foreplay, but my head game is weak lol. Any tips on how to improve? (ps I love you and what you do for the gyaldem!!!!)
26. November 2017
Aww thanks!
Just ask him to guide you and ask how he likes his penis being pleasured. Make sure to make his penis as moist as possible with saliva and to use both hands when sucking.
Oloni
Hi oloni, is it okay to lips a guy you’ve been texting with for 2 months on the first date ?
26. November 2017
Yes.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m 22 and I’ve just graduated Uni. I’m thinking of moving in with my 28 year old boyfriend of 4 years. However, I’m Nigerian, and in our culture, we’re expected to get married before moving in with man/woman. I don’t know if my parents will approve of me moving in with him. But if not, should I accept that I am an adult and can move in with him, or respect my parents and my culture and wait till we’re married?
26. November 2017
It’s all up to you, you’re an adult and if you want to move out on your own, with a friend or a lover that’s completely your choice.
Have a think about it and do what you feels right.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I have a high and constant level of sexual arousal and my partner just can’t keep up with me. How can I turn it off or down? It’s such a distraction and I’ve thought about sex toys but I’d hate for him to find it and feel emasculated, he has a old school mind set (won’t even go down on me). plus masturbation just doesn’t get me off. I almost feel like I need therapy, I feel like a nymphomaniac in terms of desire. it’s actually affecting me getting on with my day to day life.
26. November 2017
Well, if he’s no satisfying you sexually you might need to think about this relationship carefully. Sex toys aren’t about his ego, it’s about your pleasure. Have a conversation with him and address how you’ve been feeling.
You sound apologetic over your natural desires and you shouldn’t.
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