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Hi oloni, hope you’re well. My boyfriend is an amazing man, he had to pick up a lot of responsibilities when his father passed as he is the eldest of 6 siblings who are still really young. He once told me he had dreams of doing music but I never heard him say it again. I was snooping through his phone and his notes app has loads of lyrics for songs written on it and they looked really impressive. He writes a new track maybe once a week and he’s an awesome lyricist. He doesn’t know I snoop and I feel like I invaded his privacy but I really want to help motivate and push him towards this. What do I do?
18. January 2018
Oh darling, you must learn not to invade peoples privacy, it’s not right.
Moving on, tell him what you saw and explain how much you believe in him. Hopefully he’ll look past you snooping.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, so to keep it short my best friend cheated on her boyfriend. I feel some type of way about it because I was cheated on by my ex throughout my pregnancy in which I gave birth to still born twins. It ruined me inside and she was there for all of it, I know I shouldn’t reflect what happened to me onto her, but she knows how I feel about cheating. Can you give me some advice?
18. January 2018
Hey love, I’m really sorry to hear about what you went through.
In regards to your friend, what you feel is perfectly understandable and if it makes you uncomfortable, explain that to her ask that she doesn’t tell you about any encounters she has with people outside of her relationship.
It’s okay to say, “I don’t support what you’re doing, so I’d prefer not to discuss this”
Oloni
hey, a guy ive been talking to has aired me for about 2 weeks. i assumed it was due to problems at home but then i googled him and saw that he’s on dating sites and found his social media. i added him on fake accounts and he added me back within an hour and i even messaged him from my fake sc and he replied. so why isnt he replying to my message i sent weeks ago? he was showing interest? should i call him or message again or is he just trash?
11. January 2018
You did wayyy too mcuh for a guy you were simply talking to, you know that right? If he hasn’t spoken to you in two weeks, he’s not interested in you.
Stop making fake accounts, to e-stalk and put yourself out there and find a new love interest.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I’ve recently gained a bit of weight/belly fat due to stress eating from exams and I basically stopped going to the gym. He would regularly tease me and say don’t get fat, or well break up. I recently started a diet and got back in the gym, and today I had a conversation with him where he basically told me that he has a problem with the way I eat and described it as ridiculous. Is he being a dick or am I being sensitive?
11. January 2018
It really depends on the delivery of how he said it, did he straight say “yo, the way you eat is ridiculous” or was it, “I’m worried about you and think you should try to be careful with your eating habits”.
Either way, it’s very clear you’re offeneded, talk to him about it.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. Prior to having my child, I used to cum every now and then. But since giving birth, my vagina gets incredibly wet during foreplay. Literally with the slightest touch. I could never squirt but now I squirt like crazy and drip throughout sex. The squelching of my vagina is so embarrassing! My boyfriend loves how much it has changed. When I hear the sound it makes, I try so hard to stop enjoying the sex but my vagina betrays me and just drips away. Is it normal for me to get that wet?
11. January 2018
Hey love, it’s completely normal for your body to be different. As women we’re always going to look at the changes our bodies go through. Your postpartum vagina is wetter and only because that’s the change your body went through, some actually go through a lot of dryness, so this sounds like a good thing. However, if it is making you uncomfortable, try speak to a professional.
Oloni
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