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Hi Oloni. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years. Just recently I’ve realized that he’s been lying to me about a few serious matters. Should I confront him about what I’ve discovered, or should I just sit back and watch how each situation plays out? The lies are regarding drug use AND him, his separated wife, and money😢😣😤😠
30. January 2018
Yeah, confront the issue.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, I cheated on my boyfriend last night and I don’t feel bad about it. Not even in the slightest. Is this a sign that I should break up with him?
30. January 2018
It’s a sign that you should tell him, when breaking up with him.
TW *DV* Hi oloni, so I’ve been with my partner for almost 3 years it was good up until last year that’s when things started to get bad, I would find texts from girls, girls earrings in his room and all sorts but every time I mentioned it to him he would go crazy and stat hitting me, it’s got worst the last couple of months to the point where I’m getting black eyes, my lips buss out, bruises all over my body, leaving marks all over my face. Every time I try to leave I end up back with him. He puts me down I have 0 confidence in myself and I will do everything for this man but he still treats me like this. It’s even hard to leave as we have a daughter together! I don’t even know what to do anymore, he makes me feel so worthless we don’t even have a sex life, I know his cheating on me but I’m scared to say anything in case he beats me again.
30. January 2018
This is so devastating to read and I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. You need to understand that this relationship is incredibly unhealthy and I know it’s easier said than done, but you have to leave. That is your only option, it’s the only option I want for you. Think of your child and the environment they have to grow up in. The longer you stay, the more difficult it’ll become before you’re able to walk. Try seeking help from a friend or family member. Someone you know who’d be willing to help. It’s also important that you report him to the police, especially if you’re fearful that he could try to find you.
Hey Oloni… Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 8 months but we’ve been friends for almost 4 years prior to us dating… I wasn’t in his group of friends but I was really close to him and a friend and all and there were always feelings between us. Anyway since we started dating two of the female friends in his group of friends do provocative stuff and make me feel uncomfortable and when my boyfriend sets obvious boundaries they’re offended and claim they’re more important than me because they were his friends first (they’ve been hanging out for two years so that statement alone is a reach)… I just don’t really know how to deal with it I wouldn’t want my boyfriend to be in bad blood with his friends because of me but I also want my relationship and the boundaries my boyfriend and I set respected
30. January 2018
Well it sounds like your boyfriend has already done plan A. Which is talking to them, but now it might be time for plan B, distancing himself. His friends don’t respect you as his girlfriend, so it’s only right he backs away from them. True friends wouldn’t behave like that. Talk to him further and tell him how you feel.
Oloni
Hi oloni. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years we’ve have our ups and downs with his faithfulness. In previous months when I’d go to work I’d go back home and see on my history omegle chats and sex chats, and he’d always deny it was him, when it blatantly was. Same thing happened recently and it’s something I cba to even bring up because I know he will deny it but I’m also thinking is this a massive red flag because it’s not exactly innocent if he would hide it, and we’re moving in together soon so I don’t want to go through any more disloyalty
27. January 2018
You shouldn’t be moving in together, there’s clearly some issues you both need to sort out.
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