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this is to the lady who has a boyfriend of 7 years and wants to tell her boyfriend about past serial abuse… I was also ssexually abuse and I told my boyfriend too, didn’t end well due to his anger, I told him in December, and till this day it causes arguments…I don’t want to put you off because obviously not all guys are the same . your boyfriend maybe very comforting and understanding, whereas mine comforts himself through anger. so if you tell him, please be very careful as to how you approach the topic, because it will not only be sensitive to you, it’ll definitely be sensitive to him also. 13. May 2015

Thanks for sharing

Hi my girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly two years now. However she admitted while we were going out (like last year) she still had feelings for her ex. I’m having trouble accepting this, I feel like this whole relationship has been a false, what do you suggest? 13. May 2015

I think you should tell her how this has made you feel. Discuss it and hopefully you can move past it.

thank-you so much oloni! Your advice means a lot! You’re right, I’ll definitely tell him when I’m comfortable! I just want to take this moment to let you know how much I adore your work! I hope everything works out for you they way you want it to!! Lots of love girl xx 12. May 2015

Thank you 🙂

I know this is abit of a serious question to ask but I don’t know who else to ask. I just want to know Oloni, is it okay that I don’t tell me boyfriend of 7 years about my past of sexual abuse.. I mean I trust him and all but I’m afraid to open up about it, I don’t know how he’ll react. It’s a very sensitive topic that I don’t know how to approach. Am I wrong for feeling this way ? 12. May 2015

Hey! You do it when you’re comfortable. If it’s on your mind and you feel ready to, do so. You’ve been together for a very long time, so I’m sure there must be a lot of trust within this relationship. It’s a very hard topic to discuss, so also use that opportunity to explain why you took some a while to tell him.

Hey, I’m the girl who sent her man the nudes! I didn’t realise I sent my question incomplete, sorry!but he’s seen me naked before and we’ve been together for 2 years… It’s the first time I’ve sent him nudes! I’ve spoken to him about it but he says it’s nothing and it’s nothing big that I sent nudes… Am I overthinking it do you think? It’s just really annoying because it’s lowered my confidence and he doesn’t understand that 🙁 11. May 2015

He love, you have to explain that to him if you feel this way It’s understandable as every girl wants her man to oogle at her. Speak about it!

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