Hi Oloni. My husband and I have been having a rough patch about this and that, the biggest one being money. So we haven’t done the deed in over a week and when we did o it a week ago we were drunk. This whole week we’ve been avoiding each other. So this morning he sends me a doggy style sex sketch and says it always releases stress. I ignore it, my phone dies, but at that same time he sends two more. Photos of 1. A woman doing a blow job and another from a porn video. Then I didn’t respond cos phone is dead but I wasnt anyway. He sends a text saying “not up for it?”. I only saw these way after, when I turned on my phone again. So that was that. Then tonight he sleeps early again with no advancement of the deed. This time I was up for it and hoped he would kiss’s me and we would get down to it. But he sleeps and then later on he starts touching my behind and taking off my pants and he proceeds to put me in a position that suits him. So I stop him and gently call him out and say “I’m not a doll, can you please stop treating me like a doll?”. Then he says he’s sorry about that but I always reject him, why does he always have to make the first move etc and that I always complain about his bad breath. He walked out and stayed out of our bedroom. He will probably spend the night out. Was I wrong to expect him to seduce me and make me want to make love to him?
15. March 2018
The issue here is communication. You have every right to feel the way you do. He can’t and shouldn’t help himself to your body without your permission.
If you’d like to be seduced, explain this to him so he understands for future reference. Creating boundaries regardless of the type of commitment you have is vital.
Oloni
Oloni, I just wanted to emphatize with the 2nd year student who was tired of being messed around by boys. SIS WE’RE THE SAME LOL. I feel you 100% and like Oloni said, it’s kinda common, but you know, no situation is permanent and soon enough our rut has to end lol. Just knowing people out there feel the same made me feel less like an anomaly, so thank you for sharing xxx
15. March 2018
Thanks for passing through
hi oloni, i havent beat for about 11 months. ive beat 1 guy before but im scared to raise my body count especially to someone im not in a loving comitted relationship to. (btw im 19) question is; should i beat this guy and make him a regular fb or wait ? xx
15. March 2018
Heya hun! Do what makes YOU comfortable. Don’t feel pressured by society by worrying about how many people you’ve slept with. Do what feels right but be safe about it.
Oloni
Your blog has changed the way I view sex. Thank you!!
8. March 2018
Hi Oloni, I met this guy beginning of this year and we’ve been cinema and top golf and chilled at his.. we are so comfortable around each other and like each other. He’s cute and affectionate when we’re out together. I’ve asked him what his intentions are and he got mad and said just go with the flow and stop forcing things just off one question.. he thinks I want him to wife me already. Also, he hasn’t taken me out to an ACTUAL date. I always pay for myself and sometimes for him too.. he’s 24 and I’m 21. Am I wasting my time? I want a serious guy who loves me. I hate meeting new people so this will be the last:(
6. March 2018
All i read was that you’ve paid for him and it’s never been reciprocated. Please let him go.
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