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Hi oloni, my girlfriend has gotten super fat recently and the idea of having sex with her now repulses me. Don’t get me wrong I still love her but I can’t sex anymore. If she’s on top she’s out of breath in 30 seconds and sweats profusely all over me. I still want to be with her, she’s a lovely woman but the weight is too much. I told her once she gained weight and she ended up not speaking to me for a while (she’s a really sensitive person). Now she’s probably 15kg heavier. It’s been about a month since we had sex and now she’s asking all types of questions and I just tell her I’m just stressed from work. I don’t want it to end and I don’t know how to tell her this without things going left. Any tips?
16. March 2018
She’s your girlfriend so I’m sure you know her well enough to find a polite way to discuss her weight and what it’s doing to your sex life. She may still get offended, but it’s important to explain you’re telling her how you feel because you love her (I hope you love her).
Why not go to the gym with her and perhaps help her with a new diet.
If nothing changes, then I think it’s best you leave her and allow her to find someone who will love her for who she is and what she looks like.
Oloni
Hi oloni, i cheated on my boyfriend but it was a complete accident. I’m so ashamed and i know it being an accident isn’t good enough. I love him to bits and if i tell him i know he will leave. He’s amazing and i can’t lose him. What do i do?
16. March 2018
I think you should tell him, give him the opportunity to decide whether or not he wants to stay. You cheating and lying about the exclusivity of your relationship is the ultimate type of betrayal.
Oloni
Hi oloni, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 years and She has never came from penetration; but I have never had this problem with other girls, is it me or her.
16. March 2018
Hey love all women are different. She probably doesn’t climax from penetration. Try longer foreplay and perhaps paying more attention to her clitoris.
Oloni
Hiya Oloni, so I have a problem. I recently lost my virginity and during I didn’t really feel pleasure let alone orgasm. Before sex I had never really masturbated, besides riding my pillow ( that gave me pleasure but never orgasmed). Anyway, I’ve tried using my fingers and using a vibrator and literally feel no pleasure… I’m super wet, but I don’t cum, don’t orgasm. I don’t know what to do… it feels like nothing is happening.
16. March 2018
Hey love, I’m not completely certain as to what’s going on, but it seems like you might need to be more patient with your body. When most people experience losing their virginity, it isn’t always what we see in the movies. Meaning their won’t be the fireworks etc. I wrote a blog on masturbating once, it might help.
Hi Oloni, so my man used another lady’s pic as his wallpaper and I asked him to take it down, expressing how disrespected I felt. Well he took it down and apologised. But now he’s upset because he says there’s nothing bad to it, it’s just a pic of his friend. Do you think I overrsacted or I just did the right thing by asking him to take it off.
16. March 2018
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