So two years into my relationship, I learnt that I am dealing with a man with insecurities problems along with HELLA trust issues. Every time we get into petty arguments, he brings up an old bad reputation that I once had when I was 16 & I’m now 21. Oh and did I mention that none were no where near the truth? Anyway it genuinely hurts my feelings because it’s far from the truth & I have sat him down and told him how I felt about his comments. He apologised, stopped for a while & recently, he started again. Oloni, it’s to a point where I really think of myself as a whore and don’t like looking at myself in the mirror without seeing that word written on my forehead. This man is trying to kill me. What should I do?
19. April 2018
You need to run fast. He’s a bastard who wants to destroy your confidence. You don’t deserve to be around that.
If you continue to stay with him, it will get worse.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I went through my boyfriends phone and saw messages of my boyfriend telling off his friend for cheating on his girlfriend. I’m glad he wasn’t ok with him cheating and he addressed it but I’m annoyed with him because his friend’s girlfriend messaged my boyfriend and he lied to her about knowing anything about him cheating. I can understand “having your boys back” and all of that but I’m a bit concerned as to why he felt it was right to lie to her yet he felt the need to tell off his boy. Do you think I have anything to worry about?
19. April 2018
His loyalty isn’t with his boys girlfriend lol, it’s with him. I don’t think he’s done anything morally wrong in my opinion.
What’s important was how he told his friend what he did wasn’t right
oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m going through a problem with my boyfriend and I would like your advice on whether I’m wrong. I’m currently in a new relationship with a great guy but he has an issues with my behavior towards my boyfriend who died a couple of years ago. 1. I have pictures of us saved in our phone which pisses off my current boyfriend 2. I have his initials tattooed on my rib which I got after he died. He says that I’m not over him and should get rid of the pics and try to cover up the tattoo. I feel like he’s being ridiculous but my friends tell me that obeying his wishes will show him that I really do love him. I don’t talk about my deceased boyfriend around him nor do I say anything that makes him feel like I haven’t moved on so idk whey he feels likes this. Are his feelings valid and Am I not being understanding?
9. April 2018
Hey hun! First off I just want to say I’m really sorry about what happened to your first boyfriend ❤
Your current boyfriend is an insensitive person. It’s as if he’s competing with someone who isn’t with us today. It is VERY normal to keep photos of someone who has passed away, especially someone you once loved. If he was half a decent human being, he’d understand that.
As for your tattoo, tough. It was there before he came along. If this was done during your NEW relationship I’d understand his feelings.. but the fact that he’s asking you to do something to it, is worrying. No matter how uncomfortable it makes him, he has absolutely no right to tell you what to do to your body. It is wrong.
It’s actually quite sad that you can’t even grieve around him, because you might have to walk on egg shells to avoid upsetting him. He’s a lousy boyfriend and I don’t think this is someone you should be with if I’m perfectly honest.
Oloni
Hi oloni, I am currently with my boyfriend a lot now days and I do feel attracted to him but there are times where he tries it sexually and I say no , on more than three occasions I have told him no to trying to suck my breast but when we’re talking he’ll randomly suck them and where I am not In the mood he gets annoyed and says ‘is it bad that I just want to suck your breast’ I just feel like if I don’t want somethjgn being done to my body at that moment in time it should be respected ?
9. April 2018
This is sexual assault. You’re completely within your right to make it clear when you don’t want your body touched. Him being your boyfriend doesn’t make him entitled to it. Have a think about the future of this relationship long and hard. A partner who doesn’t take ‘no’ for an answer is a dangerous one and I think it’s best if you leave.
Oloni
Oloni I’ve lied to my man about my body count and I don’t know if or how to tell him the truth because this is turning into something serious
8. April 2018
Why does him knowing how many men you’ve slept with matter?? This is why you’re supposed to be private about it. Have a conversation explaining why you lied.
Oloni
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