Is it weird to masturbate to my ex. He dumped me a month ago.
3. April 2018
It’s not weird at all. It’s normal to masturbate about someone you’re attracted to.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, so I recently got introduced to a guy from a mutual friend last month. We then started talking & found out we had a lot in common. He asked for my number and I honestly don’t know my number of my head and I had not given my new number to his new friend. I messaged this friend from my new number a week later and remembered that the mutual friend used to like me but I was not interested. I thought we had surpass that stage and he even asked if he could give my number to this friend. I said yes, after a few days I asked if he had given it to him, he then replied the guy’s phone is not working LMAO. Months had passed, I then decided to add him on social networks (+I am new to social media) because the fact that his friend used to like me, there is no way he would hook us up. Is it ok to add him? I don’t see any harm in this as it can come across as platonic friendship.
3. April 2018
Mutual friend is a dick. Adding him on social media is what you should’ve done first! Come on love.
Oloni
Hi oloni, so long story short my boyfriend ended our 2 year relationship. He’s nigerian I’m jamaican, we were talking about baby names and he said he wanted all our future kids to have nigerian first names, in the midst of it I said nigerian names sound funny which I admit sounds disrespectful but didn’t want it to mean like that. This caused a huge argument and he started saying I don’t respect him or his culture and just ended it. I can’t tell if I done things cumulatively to piss him off or not and he’s not responding to my messages. Few days later he sends me a bunch of my tweets from 3/4 years ago with “Nigeria” and nigerian boys/men and they were quite crazy I can’t lie. In my defence I was young and it was usually in response to african vs Caribbean TL wars but I don’t think like that anymore.
3. April 2018
Oh goodness! Well the context of your tweet matters. Was it just you joking around, or nasty thoughts, you’ve unlearned?
I can understand why he’s annoyed. Most people take pride in where they’re from, so your knee jerk reaction could have been the final straw.
Try giving him some space then reaching out again, to apologise for your remarks on the names and past social media posts. It’s also best to ask yourself if you genuinely have an issue with his culture, because if you do staying together will only make that clearer and break down the relationship.
Oloni
Hey oloni, I’ve been having trouble with hygiene down below. I mean I wash my vagina twice a day and all. But after a long day my vagina seems to be quite odorous like an armpit. I wanted to know if that’s normal and any tips/products to keep down there consistently fresh throughout the day x
3. April 2018
Hey love! It’s normal for our vaginas to go through some odd days. I’d suggest seeing a professional like a sexual health nurse. Try also staying away from products and only using water.
Oloni
Hi Oloni! 🙂 Thank you for all that you do regarding women and helping us claim/reclaim our sexuality.
3. April 2018
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