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Hi oloni, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 years and She has never came from penetration; but I have never had this problem with other girls, is it me or her.
16. March 2018
Hey love all women are different. She probably doesn’t climax from penetration. Try longer foreplay and perhaps paying more attention to her clitoris.
Oloni
Hiya Oloni, so I have a problem. I recently lost my virginity and during I didn’t really feel pleasure let alone orgasm. Before sex I had never really masturbated, besides riding my pillow ( that gave me pleasure but never orgasmed). Anyway, I’ve tried using my fingers and using a vibrator and literally feel no pleasure… I’m super wet, but I don’t cum, don’t orgasm. I don’t know what to do… it feels like nothing is happening.
16. March 2018
Hey love, I’m not completely certain as to what’s going on, but it seems like you might need to be more patient with your body. When most people experience losing their virginity, it isn’t always what we see in the movies. Meaning their won’t be the fireworks etc. I wrote a blog on masturbating once, it might help.
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Hi Oloni, so my man used another lady’s pic as his wallpaper and I asked him to take it down, expressing how disrespected I felt. Well he took it down and apologised. But now he’s upset because he says there’s nothing bad to it, it’s just a pic of his friend. Do you think I overrsacted or I just did the right thing by asking him to take it off.
16. March 2018
He’s up to something sis.
Oloni
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I’m starting to find it rather irritating now. This guy that I met at uni and we used to have sex regularly. The first time we had sex, he also revealed it was the best he’s ever had. Fast forward to this year now, and he won’t stop begging for it. I’m now celibate and when I’ve told him I have no intention on sexing him again; he’ll ask me again and I’ll respond with no and he always asks me “why”. I strongly believe he gets it in anyways so why is it he’s always trying to revert back to my vagina!
15. March 2018
He’s an irritant who clearly doesn’t like to be told “No”. Sounds like harassment.
Block him.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. My husband and I have been having a rough patch about this and that, the biggest one being money. So we haven’t done the deed in over a week and when we did o it a week ago we were drunk. This whole week we’ve been avoiding each other. So this morning he sends me a doggy style sex sketch and says it always releases stress. I ignore it, my phone dies, but at that same time he sends two more. Photos of 1. A woman doing a blow job and another from a porn video. Then I didn’t respond cos phone is dead but I wasnt anyway. He sends a text saying “not up for it?”. I only saw these way after, when I turned on my phone again. So that was that. Then tonight he sleeps early again with no advancement of the deed. This time I was up for it and hoped he would kiss’s me and we would get down to it. But he sleeps and then later on he starts touching my behind and taking off my pants and he proceeds to put me in a position that suits him. So I stop him and gently call him out and say “I’m not a doll, can you please stop treating me like a doll?”. Then he says he’s sorry about that but I always reject him, why does he always have to make the first move etc and that I always complain about his bad breath. He walked out and stayed out of our bedroom. He will probably spend the night out. Was I wrong to expect him to seduce me and make me want to make love to him?
15. March 2018
The issue here is communication. You have every right to feel the way you do. He can’t and shouldn’t help himself to your body without your permission.
If you’d like to be seduced, explain this to him so he understands for future reference. Creating boundaries regardless of the type of commitment you have is vital.
Oloni
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