How do you ask your man for money?
19. April 2018
Drop hints or be like me and say ‘Can I have £300 please?’
Hi Oloni, I have two children with my partner which I had quite young. I was 18 with my first and 20 with my second. He’s 5 years older than me. I’m now 25 and he is 30 and for 5 years I was madly in love with him so much that I stayed faithful to him with no commitment because he said he ‘wasn’t ready’ and was too young to be a father. I raised my two children 80% of the time without him, finished my degrees and put them in private school all while he was running the streets. And now when he’s 30 and has finished hoeing around And his hairline has started receiding he now wants to marry me and be together properly, during that time when me and my family were neglected I’ve fallen in love with someone else. My question is, stay for the kids or follow my heart with a man who truly loves me
19. April 2018
Omg this shouldn’t even be a question. FOLLOW YOUR HEART. You deserve to be happy and to be with someone who will stay committed, even when times are hard. The father of your children has nothing to offer and has proved that, don’t allow that deadbeat to ruin your life.
Oloni
So two years into my relationship, I learnt that I am dealing with a man with insecurities problems along with HELLA trust issues. Every time we get into petty arguments, he brings up an old bad reputation that I once had when I was 16 & I’m now 21. Oh and did I mention that none were no where near the truth? Anyway it genuinely hurts my feelings because it’s far from the truth & I have sat him down and told him how I felt about his comments. He apologised, stopped for a while & recently, he started again. Oloni, it’s to a point where I really think of myself as a whore and don’t like looking at myself in the mirror without seeing that word written on my forehead. This man is trying to kill me. What should I do?
19. April 2018
You need to run fast. He’s a bastard who wants to destroy your confidence. You don’t deserve to be around that.
If you continue to stay with him, it will get worse.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I went through my boyfriends phone and saw messages of my boyfriend telling off his friend for cheating on his girlfriend. I’m glad he wasn’t ok with him cheating and he addressed it but I’m annoyed with him because his friend’s girlfriend messaged my boyfriend and he lied to her about knowing anything about him cheating. I can understand “having your boys back” and all of that but I’m a bit concerned as to why he felt it was right to lie to her yet he felt the need to tell off his boy. Do you think I have anything to worry about?
19. April 2018
His loyalty isn’t with his boys girlfriend lol, it’s with him. I don’t think he’s done anything morally wrong in my opinion.
What’s important was how he told his friend what he did wasn’t right
oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m going through a problem with my boyfriend and I would like your advice on whether I’m wrong. I’m currently in a new relationship with a great guy but he has an issues with my behavior towards my boyfriend who died a couple of years ago. 1. I have pictures of us saved in our phone which pisses off my current boyfriend 2. I have his initials tattooed on my rib which I got after he died. He says that I’m not over him and should get rid of the pics and try to cover up the tattoo. I feel like he’s being ridiculous but my friends tell me that obeying his wishes will show him that I really do love him. I don’t talk about my deceased boyfriend around him nor do I say anything that makes him feel like I haven’t moved on so idk whey he feels likes this. Are his feelings valid and Am I not being understanding?
9. April 2018
Hey hun! First off I just want to say I’m really sorry about what happened to your first boyfriend ❤
Your current boyfriend is an insensitive person. It’s as if he’s competing with someone who isn’t with us today. It is VERY normal to keep photos of someone who has passed away, especially someone you once loved. If he was half a decent human being, he’d understand that.
As for your tattoo, tough. It was there before he came along. If this was done during your NEW relationship I’d understand his feelings.. but the fact that he’s asking you to do something to it, is worrying. No matter how uncomfortable it makes him, he has absolutely no right to tell you what to do to your body. It is wrong.
It’s actually quite sad that you can’t even grieve around him, because you might have to walk on egg shells to avoid upsetting him. He’s a lousy boyfriend and I don’t think this is someone you should be with if I’m perfectly honest.
Oloni
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