You can’t.

Oloni

Aww lol some men and women are naturally silent when engaging in intercourse, but talk to him and tell him this. He may not necessarily have to groan, but if he says something that’s a turn on during sex that should be seen as just as good.

Oloni

Calm down love!! Lol it just sounds like you both need to communicate your wants when you’re outside of the bedroom.

“Babe, what would you like me to do more of when we’re having sex?”

or

“I’ve been reading tips on Oloni’s blog for giving head. We should try it.”

Lol.. but forreal here are some tips.

As for him going down on you, just ask if he’s into it.

Oloni

It’s such a tough one. I think it’s important to ask yourself why you slept with someone else, was it a desire to be wanted sexually? Was it frustration? Revenge? Or a moment of weakness?

If you’re going to commit to someone as seriously as this, there’s a huge chance there will be this little niggle at the back of your head reminding you of what you’ve done.

If you want to carry on the relationship, it should have a foundation of honesty. If you can’t even give him that, then walk away.

Oloni

It’s so weird that heterosexual men are fine with the idea of threesomes that benefit them, but disregard their partners feelings in terms of 3somes.

If both of you don’t like the idea of bringing a man/woman in the bedroom, the thought needs to be scrapped once and for all.

Figure a new way to spice up the bedroom. Adding someone else can cause a lot of problems, especially if neither of you are open to the idea.

Oloni