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Hi Oloni, my boyfriend and me have been together for a while. He had that guy mentality where he said we would never bowcat a girl but with me he tried it. He’s done it a few times but I want to do it more. I’ve expressed I want him to do it more but he’s not really on it. I feel happy that he’s acc tried it with me but I want him to do it more often but when I ask he just gets shy and not on it. What should I do?
19. March 2018
Well first don’t force him to do it. He has to feel comfortable enough to want to perform oral sex. The times he does do it, try posotive reinformemt, by praising him and telling him how good it made you feel. If he’s shy, it could take some time for him to loosen up. Be patient! You could also try telling him outside of the bedroom how much you enjoy it. The good thing here is that he’s trying.
Oloni
So me and this man started sleeping together and I really like him as a person, and he has stated that wants to see where things go. 2 2’s now yeahhhhhh he ghosts a lot, gets in a car accident and has a very busy life so hardly speaks to me. How do I get this communication to improve as I would like to get into a relationship with him.
19. March 2018
He doesn’t want a relationship.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, love your blog. My ex found out I cheated on him and has hated me since then. I got pregnant and it turned out he was the father. He has never been interested in helping me raise our child, wasn’t there when I gave birth and gave me full custody and hasn’t seen my son since he was born. 6 years later he’s now married and has 2 kids from that relationship. His only contribution to our son is child maintenance other than that he has taken zero part in raising him nor has he come to see him. My son recently asked why he has no dad and it made feel horrible. I feel like my actions have caused this. I tried to get in contact with him but he doesn’t respond and now I don’t know what to do. What do you think I should do?
19. March 2018
Heya! I feel like the father of your child is punishing you and your kid for something you did. It’s unfair and very cold. The truth is you can’t force him to be there, but instead do your best to raise your child. It’s sad and I hope you get a chance to at least speak to him, so you can explain what you’ve shared with me today.
Oloni
Hi Oloni I’ve been seeing this guy for about two months now. We’ve known each other for longer but only started seeing each other recently. I brought up the whole boyfriend girlfriend question and he was hesitant about it. We didn’t see each other for two weeks because I was away but now I’m back he says he’s busy with work and hasn’t made any effort to see me at all. What should I do?
16. March 2018
Use your head.
Oloni
Hi oloni, any advice on how to not give up hope on Love? I’m 18 and have seen two guys in my past, both of whom emotionally manipulated me into thinking they liked me a lot when they just wanted to beat. I feel like no guy will want me for anything more than that, they just seem to rate my looks and want to beat. I think about this everyday and I’m already on this path of thinking that finding a genuine partner who loves me is not meant to happen for me ever, especially when a lot of my peers seem to be finding the love of their lives whilst I still have yet to find anyone
16. March 2018
Hey hun, you’re way too young to even have the idea of giving up on love in your head. When you’re at this age you’re still very new to the dating game, but the truth is experiences will allow you to know when to call bullshit.
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