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Hi oloni, so long story short my boyfriend ended our 2 year relationship. He’s nigerian I’m jamaican, we were talking about baby names and he said he wanted all our future kids to have nigerian first names, in the midst of it I said nigerian names sound funny which I admit sounds disrespectful but didn’t want it to mean like that. This caused a huge argument and he started saying I don’t respect him or his culture and just ended it. I can’t tell if I done things cumulatively to piss him off or not and he’s not responding to my messages. Few days later he sends me a bunch of my tweets from 3/4 years ago with “Nigeria” and nigerian boys/men and they were quite crazy I can’t lie. In my defence I was young and it was usually in response to african vs Caribbean TL wars but I don’t think like that anymore.
3. April 2018
Oh goodness! Well the context of your tweet matters. Was it just you joking around, or nasty thoughts, you’ve unlearned?
I can understand why he’s annoyed. Most people take pride in where they’re from, so your knee jerk reaction could have been the final straw.
Try giving him some space then reaching out again, to apologise for your remarks on the names and past social media posts. It’s also best to ask yourself if you genuinely have an issue with his culture, because if you do staying together will only make that clearer and break down the relationship.
Oloni
Hey oloni, I’ve been having trouble with hygiene down below. I mean I wash my vagina twice a day and all. But after a long day my vagina seems to be quite odorous like an armpit. I wanted to know if that’s normal and any tips/products to keep down there consistently fresh throughout the day x
3. April 2018
Hey love! It’s normal for our vaginas to go through some odd days. I’d suggest seeing a professional like a sexual health nurse. Try also staying away from products and only using water.
Oloni
Hi Oloni! 🙂 Thank you for all that you do regarding women and helping us claim/reclaim our sexuality.
3. April 2018
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Hey girl, so I’m overweight and hella horny. So obviously because of my size I don’t really get attention and yeah I know I gotta start hitting gym and shit but rn I just wanna have sex lool. Anyways I’m at uni now and with tinder about getting sex is quite easy but I feel like I can’t talk about these experiences with my friends because it just makes me come across as the fat, desperate friend but keeping it to myself feels very dishonest especially when other people are confiding in me. What should I do girl?
3. April 2018
Hey hun! Being a bigger woman should never stop you from wanting to talk about your experiences or urges. We all have our insecurities! I think you just need to feel more relaxed and comfortable around your friends. If they can open up to you, you can/should do the same. Get your nut sis.
Oloni
Oloni, girl, I seriously need your help. I already know you’re about to think I’m a fool for this but anyways.. I was seeing this guy, we were casual but exclusive but both started to really like eachother. He smokes weed and I tried coke with him for the first time, I trusted him. Come to find out he’s been up to some pretty seedy behaviour i.e. selling coke, doing road etc. In my naivety, he asked me if he could borrow 700 pounds, said I’d get it back that same day and swore on his mum’s life kmt. Well lo and behold, he got arrested that night with his mandem with a ton of coke, he’s looking at serving a couple years now.. He swore down I’d still see my money, days later he tells me he owes man up to £17,000 and I’m at the bottom of his list. He said he’ll come see me before his court case but I haven’t heard nada from him since. I’m not blocked but he’s not returning my texts or calls. I need my money, do I pull up to his yard? I feel like a damn fool.
21. March 2018
Just forget that money. You were messing around with a criminal and expected said criminal to be honest and stick to his promise. Lol?
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