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Hey Oloni, Ive never had sex with a guy before because I don’t find them attractive. I told my friends and family that I want to focus on my education and get my money up. Now I’ve got my degree and I’ve got a full time job. But I know something’s missing. I’ve kissed a girl before and it felt so right but that was in college. I have no idea where to find lesbians in London. Recently I met this guy at a bar, he started flirting with me. I felt uncomfortable and told him I am a lesbian. He said that’s cool, he’s got loads of gay and lesbian friends and I thought maybe he could introduce me to them or I could find out more about the LGBT community in London. We were messaging for about a week and to be fair he was telling about black gay clubs in Vauxhall and white ones in soho. He asked me to meet up with him for drinks, my best friend came along and we were drinking and joking around. At the bar there was an extremely attractive butch female smiling at me. The guy noticed and kissed me. I was tipsy and took 4 seconds to push him off me. The girl disappeared. I went to the toilet because I was shocked. While I was there, the guy started telling my best friend that he was going to try to convert me and how he’s going to make me his. I feel offended and I don’t know what to do. If I lock him off I don’t know how is meet anyone from the LGBT community
8. June 2015
You clearly need to have a word with this so called friend of yours, his action were highly inappropriate and from what you’ve written has made you feel very uncomfortable. You don’t need to be around someone in hopes that you’ll meet other people from the LGBT community, you can do that by yourself. There are online apps and even sites such as meetup.com where you can get to know people who have the same interest etc as yourself.
My boyfriend and I have been together for just over two months. We spend a lot of time with each other and have even met each other’s parents! My problem is, is that he used to speak with a LOT of girls especially from Twitter and Tinder. I made the mistake by going through his phone early on in the relationship and was horrified with what I saw. He had been messaging a lot of girls while seeing me although he said he was only talking to me. I brought this up with him and he’s since stopped talking with the girls. I’ve looked through his phone after this and have been satisfied with what I’ve seen, however recently I caught him texting a girl and deleting the messages. This specific girl is one who he was supposed to have locked off ages ago but for some reason finds her way in his DMs, texts and whatsapp. I’m wondering if it’s too early in the relationship for all of this drama. Should I end it? I don’t want to be taken for a prick but at the same time, I love him and don’t want to give up on something I feel that could have potential. Help?!
8. June 2015
Way too early for all of this drama. Two months? Run while you can, you clearly can’t help yourself and have continued to go through his things. He has also hidden, deleted and lied to you. Neither of you are ready for a relationship to be quite honest.
Is it wrong that I feel betrayed? i found out that my partner has been talking bad about me, saying that if we didn’t have a tenancy agreement then he wouldn’t be with me, but then the same night he came home and had sex with me and told me how much he loves me.
8. June 2015
There’s clearly a problem that needs to be a topic of conversation between the two of you. Let him know what you found out.
can you please answer my question, I’ve posted it twice and you still haven’t answered
8. June 2015
I as a person can not physically answer all questions. If you want your question answered desperately the best thing you can do is email me itsoloni@gmail.com for a quote on my relationship coaching services. Thank you.
Hi Oloni. I don’t know what to do. My bf of 2 and a half years have had our ups and downs however I’ve noticed him following girls who post nudity on Instagram dno if they’re pornstars or not they could very well be. It isn’t the first time and I don’t know whether I should be bothered about it? I’ve lost all trust with him and every time I try to break it off with him he just avoids it.
8. June 2015
Some couples don’t care others find it disrespectful. If it bothers you, speak up about it and let him know how you feel.
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