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Hey.. Was wandering if you could help me out a tad. Around a month ago i got in touch with my ex. More recently we decided to try again. She asked me since we have been apart if I had been with anyone else. I told her I had slept with one other person. To this she responded that it means I never loved her as I wouldn’t have been able to go through with it (sleeping with the other girl) I’m telling her this is completely false and that with the other girl its just sex with no feelings but i do love her. She says this is impossible. I am certain that if this was the other way around that I as the man would be accused of slut shaming a woman. How can I get around this?
16. June 2015
You’d only be accused of slut shaming if you slut shamed. She just sounds hurt, but if we look at this logically what you do individually when you’re not together has nothing to do with either of you. You weren’t together. If she can’t handle the truth you’ve given then you have to give her, her space till she’s ready to come around.
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16. June 2015
Hi Oloni I love your work and pray for great future success. Me and my bf have been together for 8months and I love him, he lives an hour away from me on train and we see each other every week. He wants to transfer to a uni further away, which means we’ll be 4 hours away from each other. He didnt enjoy his first year of uni hence why he wants to move and I dont want to stop but I want to stay with him and it will be too hard to see him when he is 4 hours away. What should we do
16. June 2015
You consider having a ldr and schedule days where you’ll be able to see each other. Plenty of young couples in university are in long distance relationships. Plus there are other ways you can connect such as Facetime & Skype calls.
Hi Oloni. Lately my boyfriend has been pestering me about having anal sex and it’s the one thing I refuse to do with him. In the past I’ve compromised and we’ve tried different sex positions despite my initial apprehension so he thinks if he begs hard enough I’ll give in. However I refuse to waver with this one and it’s the one boundary I’ve upheld through our relationship. We’ve been together 2 years and hes been pestering since January so now I’m fed up. How do I get across it will never happen?
15. June 2015
A lot of men do this and believe that some women secretly like it, whilst that’s true, there’s still the rest who don’t or do it because they want to please their partner. If you’ve put your foot down, then put the other. Have a conversation and let him know how much it bothers you. ‘This has been on my mind…..’, ‘I dislike the fact that after numerous times…,’ – I hope it works out!
Hello Oloni I’ve got the worst dilemma, I recently transitioned my hair so I’m going natural. I used to watch all those youtube girls with their loose curls and my bf used to comment how gorgeous they look and he support me 100%. Howevee 3 months after my big chop my afro has emerged and it’s nothing like those youtube girls. I’m ok with this but he is not st all. When I had a buzz cut he said I looked stunning but now it’s growing out he says I look like a ‘starving african child ‘(I’m skinny). It’s making me insecure and I’m tempted to relax my hair and install a weave until it grows more. Should I do so? Or should I go natural despite his dislike? Really need help with this I’d appreciate any reply
15. June 2015
His comments are very offensive & you need to pull him up on how to speak to you. I know several women who have gone through the big chop and found it hard to maintan so decided to just get a weave/wig whilst still keeping their hair natural. The decision is yours I know we always want our man to find us attractive, but wear your hair how YOU want. Wear what makes YOU feels confident and sexy.
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