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My girlfriend is overly emotional and moody. She complains about anything and everything. Since we are way past the honeymoon period it is no longer something I can just live with. She complains if I see my friends and complains if I leave my shoes in the wrong place. Seriously anything. I sat her down and told her basically to just stop it. Its got to the point where whenever she complains or gets upset i just ignore or don’t care because its like the boy who cried wolf. She now is taking it personally and is withdrawn because she thinks I dont care about her when the opposite is true. Its just that I’m not a child minder and shouldn’t have to deal with that kind of BS. How do I stop this because the other day she even said that if I don’t show concern she will find someone that will. How do I make her see that it isn’t me with the problem (I’m aware of how conceited that sounds). How do I show her that if she just behaves emotionally stable and doesn’t complain if I show up at her house at 4:15 as opposed to 4 when I said I’d be there (yes this did happen) then everything would be perfect.
18. June 2015
The honeymoon period is like being on probation at work, you don’t really know your employees true colours yet. However I’m sure you dated for a bit before you both committed to each other. Have another talk and express how you feel. Saying things like how she’ll find someone else shows that she’s also reaching her breaking point. You need to get to the bottom of what is making you both act the way you do. Are you compromising? Are you listening?
Hi, I have been going out with a guy for almost two years now but he has become so friend oriented, always playing FIFA with his friends, always going to chill with them. Basically spending most of his time with his friends. 90% of the time that I go to his house he will leave me to be with his friends yet i’m still here. I’m thinking to just end it because I deserve better! Am I overreacting? Bare in mind he was NEVER like this. What do you think I should do? All opinions are welcome.
18. June 2015
This would put any woman off. Talk to him about it, let him know unacceptable you find it and give him a chance to change things.
Do you think Tinder is a good place to meet and talk to guys? A lot of people see it as a hook up site and that’s not really what I’m looking for. If not what else would you recommend (that’s free please lol)
18. June 2015
Tinder is good, but don’t use one, use them all. Any site/app can be used for hook ups.
Me and this guy have so much history together, he got me pregnant a couple of years ago but I got rid of it because he went to jail for 3 1/2 years. When he came out of jail we slept together now I find out the girl he cheated on me with is pregnant with his baby (she’s going to drop soon) meaning he had unprotected sex with me knowing she was pregnant. Should I tell her? If I tell her would that make me bitter?
18. June 2015
Hey Oloni, I was with my ex on and off for about 2 years. Things didn’t work out due to constant cheating and a lack of trust..mostly on his part. Since we broke up in September we’ve slept together several times. It’s hard because deep down I still love him but I don’t want to just have a physical relationship with him. He reassures me that he still cares about me and always thinks of me but he just can’t commit at the moment. I know I should move on and just let him go but like I said I love him, but also I just can’t imagine being physical with anyone else. Every time I try and remove him from my life he finds a way back in. What can I do to get rid of him once and for all? Thanks
18. June 2015
You can’t imagine being physical with anyone else because it’s soon and you’re not ready. It’s also because you’re still messing with the past. Neither of you are giving each other the space you both deserve to move on. You’re sleeping with someone you had a rocky relationship with. Not a good idea. Try the no contact rule and keep yourself busy. Learn from this relationship, so you’ll be ready for dating in a few months.
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