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My ex and I broke up about two months ago but we still talk and see each other now and then. I know that I still have feelings for him but I think that he only wants to be friends because he always calls me “his friend”. However he will go out of his way to see me and flirt with me and say certain things to make it seem as if he likes me when we hangout. I’m just so confused because he is constantly sending mixed signals and it sucks because I really want him back.
23. June 2015
Hi oloni. I’ve been in an on and off relationship with this guy did about 4 years now. We now have a baby together. However he has other children with other women. We try and stay away from each other but it just doesn’t work especially as he’s always over my house to see our child. I really love him and want our family to work. But there is so much chaos and drama between me and his other children’s mum, my friends etc. I feel like he’s resistant to being in a relationship with me because it’s not fair on the other mothers. Or he’s scared what people are gonna think about us getting back together. Do I try and work things through with him to have our family or just leave him and the drama and just raise our son without being together? It would be helpful if this could be QOTD.
23. June 2015
If all of these factors that you mentioned aren’t allowing your relationship to work out perhaps you need to re-think this properly. If you face drama with the other mothers of his children, have been on and off with him for four years, it’s very hard for me to paint the happy ever after you want. I think you should stick the the important things such as co-parenting. He has shown that he has a way of being irresponsible so try keep your mind on the importance of your raising your child.
I have this thing where I only introduce a girlfriend to my parents if I feel like seriously in love. I’ve only ever introduced one girl to them, maybe I’m old fashioned in this. Anyway, I’m with this girl, and I feel like we’re in a very good place at the moment. We’ve been together about 5 months now and talked for prolly 1-2 months before. She’s been wondering why I don’t let her around mine when family are home & I’m unsure how to articulate why I haven’t. How do I tell her that I’m not at that stage yet without hurting her feelings and making her feel like she’s just another girl?
23. June 2015
You’re just going to have to be open and honest. ‘I usually feel more comfortable in introducing a partner to my family when I’m ready’. She may not like the answer, but she’ll respect your honesty.
I was dating a guy for 6 months. Neither of us had the conversation about being exclusive or making it something serious. I knew he was seeing other people and vice versa. Great sex, great dates, I just don’t think either one of us were ready to commit to each other. Recently I’ve posted pictures from my dates with another guy I just started seein. Shortly after I posted those pictures, Mr. Sensitive (guy I was seeing for 6 months) unfollowed me and unfriended me. I called him to ask if he wanted to talk about it. I couldn’t believe he was acting like this, considering he is 40 and I’m in my early 20’s. I feel like he wanted me to know he was upset because, he didn’t block me anywhere. Just unfollowed and unfriended. Am I in the wrong? Or is he really in his feelings.
23. June 2015
It sounds like you did it out of spite so he could see it and he did. So why are you bothered? You’re not seeing each other any more so him following you rather than blocking should not be something you think about deeply.
Hi oloni my dilemma is a bit different to what you normally get. Anyway my dilemma is that I have a very bad relationship with my mother, we are not the best of friends simply because over the years she has hurt me with her words when she is cursing me. For years i have gone out of my way to earn her love, respect and to just be appreciated for what i do. I do everything she asks of me, never complain i also contribute towards house bills when i get paid from work but she still threatens to throw me out the house even after i have paid my dues. She sometimes curses me when i have not done anything i try not to say anything out of respect for her often times i will just keep quite but it really hurts me as i ponder on the names she calls me. I cry myself to sleep everynight and try to pray but nothing seems to change. Today she said i have until the end of month to be out her house, i dont have anywhere to go as im only 20.Help me as i am borderline depressed. 😢 ontop of it i have recently just gone through a hurtful break up.
23. June 2015
You and your mum need to have a serious conversation. Do you have any siblings or close relatives you think you can ask to get involved? Have a family discussion and talk to her, share how you feel and allow her to realise how her words hurt you. Has your mum been going through anything? A lot of the times parents take out their troubles on their kids without noticing the hurt they are causing.
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