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Hi oloni my boyfriend messaged you saying I’m emotional and moody. Let’s put it this way he has cheated on me and I gave him another chance he then went back to the same girl after we had a break and this really fucked me up because I was willing to make it work. Now I complain because I don’t trust him, he needs to understand that I had got to a point where I was getting over things then I found out when we got back together from the break he had been speaking to the girl he cheated with all along. After this I just cba he wasn’t there for me when I had a miscarriage , he ignores me he never compromised when I tell him where I think he is going wrong like not giving me attention and making time as we both work he doesn’t want to hear it. He calls me a devil and said he hates the way I’ve become and one thing I hate the most is that he never ever listens to a single thing that I say he just twists it onto me and makes it seem like I’m a nag.
19. June 2015
Thanks for coming to share your side. This seems like you BOTH need to let this go. You’re both unhappy and have been through quite a lot. Why are you both still together? You don’t owe each other anything. If you’re both miserable what reason do you have to still call what you have a relationship?
I need some help. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. Whenever we have sex he doesn’t really make me cum, but the sex is so good. Like on another level good. I can count on my hand how many times. I feel as though I’m really affecting his masculinity. I just want to make him feel good. Make him feel like a man. We’re in a really amazing place. Although, we have been through certain things which have been really emotionally damaging on me. I’m starting to think that this might be it? Maybe there’s a disconnect there? Or maybe something is wrong with me? I’ve only slept with 2 guys including him… So maybe I haven’t had enough experience? I’m not sure. Bearing in mind, I’m only 19 and he’s 23 if that makes a difference.
19. June 2015
Calm down love! Great sex doesn’t mean orgasms, so stop worrying and relax. Many guys aren’t aware but not all women climax during sex. It doesn’t mean the sex is rubbish or poor. We just have this false misconception I really wish we were taught about during sex education in school. Try new things and positions to keep your sex life steamy, you’ll be fine.
When do you know the time right is right to introduce your boyfriend to your mum? And what would the best way be to do so
19. June 2015
When you’re ready and comfortable. I think a brief meeting would be good first. So suggest he comes to the house to pick you up for a date for example if your parents are in introduce them. Simple.
Super frustrated !!!!! I love my girlfriend but we rarely have sex, and I mean rarely. Like once every 6 months if that. I’m always sexually frustrated she always turn me on and then falls asleep. Whenever I try to touch her she always shrugs me off, and say I’m being too clingy, I don’t know how much more I can put up with. I’m not the cheating type but Im getting to point where I’m feeling to walk away. I spoke to her about it and nothing’s changed. She tells me that she doesn’t like sex anymore because she had so much, that she doesn’t enjoy it. I try to be there the best way I can and try to be understanding But I’m always up at night because I can’t sleep because I’m frustrated. I really don’t know what to do
19. June 2015
Once in 6 months? Yeah, you both need to have a talk and get to the bottom of things. This doesn’t make you clingy it makes you human with desires to honestly be sexually pleased by the person you love and share your bed with every night.
Sex is a big factor in relationships, so if her excuse is that she’s had enough you might want to re-think things.
Hi Oloni, this is a bit of a complex story but I’ll keep it as brief as possible. Basically my friend has been with this guy on and off for about 4 years (let’s call him Dan) at one point I was seeing his friend who one day told me out of the blue that Dan had a child at the age of 15. He apparently decided he wanted nothing to do with this child and his family moved away. He moved back to the area a few years ago and is now with my friend. When Dan’s friend told me this story I was in 2 minds about whether to tell her or not, as it happened they broke up a few days later so I forgot about it. In between then and now another person has told me the same story, they’ve got back together and she’s now pregnant with his child, obviously I have concerns about whether Dan will do the same again to her. To my knowledge she has no idea about his other child, I have no proof of him existing other than the word of 2 people I no longer really speak to. I want to know if I should tell her what this guy told me or just leave it?
19. June 2015
Hey I understand this is a tough situation, but something needs to be said if she is a good friend of yours. Not because you’re scared that he may do the same thing, but because she’s about to have a child with him. Give her the opportunity to ask about it. Allow her to at least be aware of the situation, even if it’s gospel or a rumour.
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