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hey oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend on and off for the last 5 years we’ve consistently been together for the last two years and are now planning on getting married. well atleast that was the plan. so my mother was recently diagnosed with something (don’t want to get in detail) and the last couple of months it’s been pretty rough for me. at times he seems caring and at times I don’t feel like he’s really supporting me seems like he downplays the situation but I feel if the roles were reversed he would be devasted and I would be more understanding. anyways recently her health has been a lot better so I don’t talk about it much but yesterday she was suddenly hospitalised and It was a lot to cope with. my boyfriend on the other hand had something organised with friends for maybe a week and I asked him to come and see me I needed him to be there for me and he simply told me he had plans. I was furious and really felt betrayed as I should be his priority after I blew up on him he changed his tune and decided he wanted to see me but at this point I wasn’t unintrested. he tyred again about 5 hours later but that just wasn’t good enough for me so I rejected his attempt. he then didn’t speak to me until this afternoon it was clear he just continued with his plans so I broke up with him do you think overreacting ?
15. June 2015
I hope your mother is doing well right now and I’m sorry to hear she was hospitalised. You needed emotional support from your boyfriend and that is understandable, but after he was willing to come you should have just let him. Your pride and stubborness trumped the shoulder you wanted so this was the result. If you told him not to bother, it’s not out of this world to expect him to go back to his original plans. Give it a few days, take care of your mother, keep yourself busy & see how you feel. If you think the break up was a bad idea, then speak to him, but use this time to figure out if this is who you’d like to marry.
I was on a double date with my friend and her man and ironically the chemistry between me and her man was stronger between me and him than with me and my bf. This double date was supposed to spice things up but it just turned me off my bf. My friend advised me her bf enjoyed it and wants to do it again and I find myself more excited about the fact I get to see her man again. Do I talk to my friend? Or suppress the feeling and focus on my man (who I genuinely adore, things have just been stale lately cos he’s grieving over a relative)
15. June 2015
You’re lusting over someone elses boyfriend. Cancel the date, it’s one thing to enjoy socialising with other couples it’s another when you’re counting down the days to see him especially when you have a partner. I don’t think it’s a good idea. If you and your boyfriend have you’re own issues solve them.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few years now. For long time, we’ve been having intimacy issues, he’s lazy and doesn’t want sex as much as I do. I’ve asked people what I should do and most people say that I want it too often and that’s probably the problem but I get very angry when I don’t have it. Long story short, I cheated on my boyfriend out of anger and then found out I was pregnant about a month later. I’m pretty positive that the baby belongs to my boyfriend because the other guy wore a condom and didn’t even ejaculate because I told him to stop. Basically, I’m starting to feel bad and I’m not sure if I should tell my boyfriend or not.
15. June 2015
You have to tell him you cheated. If you weren’t being sexually satisfied you should have said something instead of going elsewhere. That’s not how a rationship works. If you are definitley pregnant take a DNA test despite who you think might be the father.
I dated a guy around two years ago, and we recently became friends…he refuses to go out publicly with me as he says he’s embarrassed to be seen with his ex, should I bother being friends with him?
15. June 2015
Please let this ‘friendship’ go. This clearly isn’t working.
I’ve been seeing this guy I met online 4 months ago and he said he wasn’t looking for a relationship, but recently he told me he likes me and wants to get to know me and it isn’t just about sex. I have trouble believing that he actually likes me and doesn’t want to fuck and leave especially since I’m a virgin
15. June 2015
He’s a liar. Keep it moving.
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