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y girlfriend is in her 1st year of uni, and wants to go part time from next year because shes from Greece and she doesn’t have access to certain financial help we do. Anyways me and her have been together for a year. I’m in my second last year of my Engineering degree. We’ve been planning to get married one day and have kids however now shes really keen and wants us to have a kid shortly after I graduate. I tell her to wait till after shes finished her degree (because if shes part time shell be having it in the 2nd year) but she thinks shell be able to have a baby and still be at uni. However I want a kid as well but im not sure tbf she says shell be ready… should we?
5. June 2015
I can’t tell you what to do that’s something you both have to sit down & have a discussion about.
Hey, I have a issue to do with my ex trying to creep back. We went out first instance and broke up but on mutual terms, then after some months we got back together again on mutual terms. It was just over two years altogether. The first time we went out everything was sweet and nice honeymoon stage and all that stuff, like he would literally do everything for me and didn’t care about what anybody said. The second time however it was very different and I know people always say don’t get back with your ex but he was my first bf, he also violated me so I didn’t trust him as much anymore. So things were just really weird and it was everyday lets take a break, or i don’t wanna talk to you or why did you do this we need to talk. On a very serious level it was like a Chris Brown and Karrueche type of relationship, always going back and forth. Going to different Uni’s I didn’t trust him because of things he had done, so I went to speak with him and discussed if we should break up or separate for some months into uni and see how things go. I just wanted to save myself the heartbreak I could feel coming. Skip to uni, he randomly stops talking to me or replying to my messages, so I just took it as we were over, but then he keeps trying to creep back, saying he has changed and he misses me. He came to my uni recently to see me and nothing happened between us and I realised I don’t like him at all but he was telling bare stories and said he wants to try again but since her left he hasn’t spoken to me. What should I do? Because I know one day he is just gonna pop up
5. June 2015
Block his number & move on.
I don’t think this counts as a relationship question but anyhow I like this guy and I think I’ve made it quite obvious to him. He always initiates the convo when I see him but I just don’t know if he’s interested or whether he’s in a relationship ? Any advice ?
5. June 2015
Honestly? Just ask ‘Do you have a girlfriend?’ It’s that simple especially as you both speak already.
Hi Oloni. I’ve been with my bf for almost 4 years and he wants to settle down and start having a family. I am all for that, but the timing is the biggest issue. I am in my 2nd year of uni and would like to finish my studies first and work for abit before havung children. He is a few years older than me, which why he wants to settle down now. He has previously admitted that if in the next 2 years max, I dont settle that he will up and leave me. I know he loves me and I love him too, but i am just not ready at this point in time. Having children right now would be a barrier in my aspirations at this point in time. What should I do Oloni? I dont know whether to just give in and have children now or wait to finish my studies/work. Part of me does want children just not now. Should I end this relationship or hope he is patient with me?
5. June 2015
You need to have a serious discussion with him. He shouldn’t expect you to pause your life goals so you can fulfil his dream.
If you’re not ready for kids etc, then you’re not. What you want does matter & is not unreasonable.
Oloni is it a bad thing I am soooo attracted to my boyfriend sexually and physically, like he turns me on soo much that everyone we see each other we do the deed( sorry if I’m sounding too vulgar) but do u think its a bad habit as we can’t chill or be together without having coitus. Also since u work in a adult store is there any tips you have for to make our intercourse more adventurous. Thanks in advance
5. June 2015
Being extremely attracted to your partner is a good thing. Some would call it passion, and you probably both have a high sex drive. Try using a cock & ball ring as you both will get stimulated from the vibrating sensation.
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