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Hi Oloni, just wanted to ask if it’s ridiculous at 23 to give up on relationship prospects of you have no luck in that department? And when I say no luck, to be specific, having never been in a long term relationship. Thanks
4. August 2015
It’s very ridiculous. I don’t believe in ever giving up.
Hey Oloni , I’m 22 and just finished university. I recently started dating a girl and I do really like her. Bare in mind even though she is my first ever girlfriend I’ve always liked girls but I never really did anything about it so I still consider my self bisexual. She however is a fully fledged lesbian i.e a ‘stud’ . Everything has been going well and stuff but we started having problems bacuase she keeps on accusing me of using her as an experiment and just for ‘fun ‘ and doesn’t believe that my feelings are for real . My problem is I am African and so is she but the difference is that her mom and friends all know that she prefers the other sex . And for me it’s obviously not the same . She says she understands me not wanting to air our relationship out but then suddenly she will turn on me when things are going wel . Asking me if I see us together in the future having children and all that . But it’s only been 4 months and I honestly don’t know how to answer cause I feel pressured to feel some type of way and I just feel l need space to figure it out but I feel if I say that to her she is going to think I don’t have feelings for her . Please help :/
1. August 2015
It’s been four months. Talking about kids etc would scare anyone away. She’s insecure and clinging onto you with these questions to validate your feelings for her… To validate the relationship. Have a serious conversation with her. Sit down SPEAK. Communicate how you feel. ‘I like things between you & I but I feel ss though I’m being pressured….Can we take things slowly as …xyz’. Hopefully that helps.
Hi Oloni, a year or 2 before I met my current boyfriend, my bestfriend and him used to talk. However, nothing really happened between them because there was no connection there and obviously I knew of this because me and the girl are good friends. Recently, me and boyfriend got together and usually my friend is really supportive and listens when I talk about guys but when it comes to him I feel like she acts weird. It’s almost become awkward between us, like I can’t really mention him coz when I do she switches the convo. I have addressed this with her and she said that there was no issue but I just can’t seem to understand why there is this awkwardness when there is no need. She has a boyfriend who she is very happy with so to me this makes no sense. I don’t know what to do cos I feel as though a rift is forming in our friendship and I don’t understand why. What should I do?
1. August 2015
She doesn’t like the fact you’re with someone who was a former interest of hers. I mean she’ll mouth out the words ‘I’m happy for you two’ but in reality she’s not okay with it. Hence why it’s awkward. There isn’t much you can do, but look for other friends to talk to if you ever need to ..till things eventually change.
Hey, I haven’t spoken to my ex for about 2 years now he even has a baby,but I’ve been thinking about him for a while,il thinking to add him back on Instagram just to ask how he is,nothing more,what do you think?
1. August 2015
Please don’t.
Hey Oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for awhile but recently our conversations have slowly been decreasing. When we do talk there’s loads of awkward silence, before we used to talk everyday now we talk once a week and it’s brief. I’ve tried to talk about it but now I feel there’s no point. I love him loads but I don’t know what to do now. Whether to try work it out or just leave
1. August 2015
How long are you spending on the phone for awkward silences to happen? Try talking about it again and ask for his opinion. Is it just the phone calls or is there more?
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