IMO There’s really no right or wrong answer when it comes to the cussing, he was out of line so your hurled abuse at him, after he was doing way too much. At the same time when you do cuss at someone you have to realise that what you say can’t be taken back. I agree, he should have just went about his business and not tried to dig for evidence, but human beings are generally nosey. Now you have to decide whether this friendship is worth sorting out (that’s if you are friends) friends don’t send friends inappropriate messages..so try to find out what the two of you actually have. Also if this is something you really want kept private ask him to keep what he now knows to himself.

Oloni

This is usually the issue with a lot of couples who are formed out of infidelity. But this doesn’t mean things can’t work even with the infamous saying ‘you lose them how you got them’. Talk to her about it and open up, I mean seriously open up. Discuss your paranoia with her and explain where your insecurities have stem from. Doing this allows her to know what’s up so she can reassure you, that you have nothing to worry about. If this still continues after a while you’re going to have to ask yourself whether or not the relationship can continue. I hope this helps.

Oloni

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nCYMyJ6IctQ

It seems like you’re putting his feelings over yours because of what you believe guys hate hearing. Nu uh, speak up my love, you’re both in this and if you believe you’re getting the signs he may want more then say something, especially if you do. ‘Do you see us going anywhere?’ ‘Is this just sex or more?’ ‘Where do you see this going?’- there are 101 ways to put across that your mind, body and soul wants more than just the physical. Honestly, don’t beat around! Several relationships have started based on sex alone. If he does however say he wants to keep things strictly sexual, it’s up to you to then decide if you can really do that without your emotions getting involved. It’s tricky to have sex with someone you might have feelings for, so be careful.

Oloni

I can understand your concern, but honestly speaking anything is possible. He could be telling the truth and she may not know he has a girlfriend. There could be several things. Either way speak to him about it and share your thoughts on why you don’t appreciate what happened. What reason does a new work colleague have to call him at 11.30pm?What was so important and couldn’t wait till morn..noon in fact? Let’s not assume too much from a couple of missed calls… but girl, woman to woman pay close attention to certain things he does for a bit because as I said from the start, I understand your concern. I get it.

Oloni

Hey hun, the guy you’re seeing is being extremely selfish and clearly his intention with you do not go further than the bedroom. I’d leave because the relationship you have doesn’t seem to have any substance ESPECIALLY if he hasn’t even taken you out for a common meal.

Oloni