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Hey Oloni, as I write this in in tears as it feels like my heart has been broken. I had been talking to this boy for about a year now he’s 21 and I’m 18, initially I knew he liked me. We met up for a few months on and off and eventually ended up having sex. We still met up after that and did things but recently (like 2/3 weeks now) he has been acting SO weird. Like I asked him when are we gonna go out to like a restaurant and he replied “lol” so I asked him again and he hasn’t replied. I’m not an ugly girl so why would he not want to go out places with me? I haven’t spoken to him since but I was preeing his Twitter and found that he’s talking to another girl. This is when my heart got broken and I feel mistreated. I feel like I should say something but don’t know what, because at the moment I’m so angry! Please help me!!!!!!!
3. March 2016
Hey love, chin up. I’m sorry about what happened and for how you’re feeling in general. I’ve been there, one minute you think everything is great between you and a guy and the next he totally switches up and doesn’t want to pursue things further. It makes you think, ‘well, what wrong with me?’ then answer is NOTHING. It’s not an excuse, but sadly there are a lot of 21 year old men who aren’t really serious. Not all of them, but there’s plenty. From what you’ve explained, it seems like he was only in it for the physical and the girl he’s talking to might just be the next person who’s time he’ll waste. Either way, keep yourself busy and off his social media as you’ll just feel more sad. Keep yourself occupied and with time, you’ll be alright.
Oloni
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3. March 2016
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Hello Oloni, I’ve been speaking to this guy since November and were in March now.I’ve always been so supportive with his football career but he doesn’t make no time for me and I feel like I’m the one always giving so I stopped talking to him and just distanced myself from him a little so he noticed and started popping up to me more frequently but I just give him straight replies because I feel like if something serious was gonna happen it would have happened by now, shall I give him a chance or keep giving him the cold shoulder?
3. March 2016
He likes you, but he’s not that into you. You shouldn’t be playing the ‘treat um mean, to keep um keen’ game. Yes, he has other commitments but if he wanted something romantically, you’d feel it. Don’t lose sleep over this lad and try to date other people.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I have been meaning to ask for advice for a while now. I had been seeing two different guys for a few months now after having leaving my last relationship for 2 years cos my ex cheated. I’ve been kinda stuck between which guy i should drop cos i wasn’t comfortable with sleeping with two guys. Of these two guys, I really had feelings for Guy B but recently just found out he has a girlfriend! I have been so sad and a little bit heartbroken since I found out. Now I believe I have no business with his girlfriend and I really don’t have any plans on telling her but he still texts me and I want to know how to tell him I know he has a girlfriend and just end what we had.
3. March 2016
It’s not as hard as you’re making it out to be hun. When he calls/texts/message simply let it be known, that you’re aware he has a girlfriend, then cut him out.
Oloni
Hi oloni, my brothers girlfriend is constantly bullying me and my brother doesn’t seem to care. She has called me ‘fat’ and ‘ugly’ on several occasions and when she sees I get upset she later on passes it off as a joke. When they started going out I poured my heart out to her about all my own insecurities as I don’t have much friends but now she uses those same insecurities to hurt me. I’m not a confrontational person so I would never openly stand up to her or disrespect her but every time I tell my older brother he doesn’t seem very interested in what I have to say. I feel extremely low about my confidence issues and and I just feel close to breaking point because of constant comments.
3. March 2016
Well she’s a bitch. Your brothers girlfriend got too familiar once you opened up to her and now she’s using it against you and a very insensitive person. I’d advise that you have another conversation with your brother and fill him in on exactly what you told me. You know the fact you poured out your heart to her when they started dating. If that still doesn’t work you’re going to have to use your voice and seriously speak up. Saying something like ‘I don’t find your jokes funny and you need to stop’ is enough for her to use her sense and realise you do not appreciate, the rubbish she’s saying. I understand you’re not a confrontational person, but my dear, in this life, people will only continue to treat you the way you allow them to. Let me know how it works out.
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