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Hi Oloni, I was wondering what you think of this because I am being made to feel like I am the problem. My boyfriend regularly asks me to go down on him, which is fine. When I do I am spending time, I know what he likes etc but when he outright asks me for this he just doesn’t come. During this process there is no touching me or enthusiasm toward me at all. He then blames it on that he is over thinking it and can’t come. I am being enthusiastic, I like doing it and I know I’m good at it as some days there’s no problems at all and we have discussed what each other likes etc. It used to be enjoyable for us. Anyway this can happen and then he doesn’t come so I ask him to do something for me, at least just touch me so maybe he can get excited again and I can feel like he wants me rather than just to suck his dick. He then refuses because ei didn’t make him come. I am would like to know what you think of this because its making me feel used and like he doesn’t find me attractive because he won’t touch me.
18. September 2020
I answered this on Laid Bare.. the episode is out this week, but this guy aint even close to it. He’s using you as a human sex doll. You’re pleasure should not be put on hold for him. You’re not the problem, it actually sounds like he might be the one who might have some erectile problems. Talk to him about it.
Oloni
Hi oloni me and my sister in-law have been living together for over a year now and she is so sexy am beginning to have feelings for her and I know she does too, is it right for us to be involved in a sexual relationship?
18. September 2020
Behave! This is weird.
Oloni
Il try to keep it short so I’m seeing an older man who’s married with 2 children. He currently lives with his wife and children but states he they don’t have a romantic relationship, he’s only there for his children as she’s not mentally fit to care for herself or their children. When their marriage fall apart he moved out and worked aboard for a couple of months. There, he met another woman, they had a brief relationship and she fell pregnant. the new baby is due In a few weeks and he’s supported this woman all the way. He’s decided he will make this woman his 2nd wife as she’s the mother of his child and he will care for them. Now my dilemma is I don’t want to be 3rd best, he made a comment recent that I won’t be his main one but I will be his favourite and that doesn’t sit well with me. He’s an amazing man and treats me extremely well he kind, gentle and loving but I just don’t want be/feel in competition with these women. Am I over thinking the situation or should trust he’ll be there for me also 100%?
18. September 2020
Do you like pain??
Oloni
Hey b! I’ll try keep it short. Me and my man live far away from each other. Been together 2 years. Half way through I found out his favourite hobby is lying and I’m pretty sure he’s cheated. Whenever I bring a situation up he’s spins it round and it’s my fault. This cycle carried on for a while until lock down when I realised I actually don’t even like him anymore. I told him, he cried and promised to never wrong me again. I thought I could start to have feelings again. Now I got my self a PT and he’s finnnneeee. I have sex dreams about him. I still haven’t got feelings for my boyfriend. I don’t know what to do anymore
8. July 2020
Break up with his and sleep with your PT.
oloni, i got ghosted for the very first time and i honestly don’t know how to take it. we were on the same page, we both wanted a relationship and even talked about meeting eachother’s parents, been on multiple dates all paid for by him and taking our relationship to the next step. fast forward one day we’re talking about something super casual and he stoped answering mid conversation. i texted him and called him but no response.. at this point it’s clear i’m being ghosted. but i just seriously don’t understand why and honestly i’m heartbroken and have been crying for 2 days. i just don’t understand. how could someone do this?
7. July 2020
I’m so sorry you’ve experienced this and I wish I had the answers but sadly I don’t. If you need to cry more, cry. If you need your friends to talk to call them. Do something to make yourself feel better. I’ve never quite understood ghosting especially when a real bond has been created. I think it’s cowardly but also a true testament of this persons character, so just be grateful you found out. Time might tell and it might not, but you have to do what you can to move on. He could also be going through something privately, you just never know.
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