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Hi, Oloni, I’m out dating finally since having my daughter 10 years ago but the guy I’m “dating” is always MIA and the convos are DRY however when we link up there’s bare chemistry!! What am I or he doing wrong? Because the man won’t even call me and will only send a dry “hey how are you”
7. July 2020
You let him know that you’d like more effort and if things don’t change, move on sis!
Oloni
Hey Oloni, this may be a dumb question but anyway. I’m 23, and my body count is 5. I had a really traumatic breakup two years ago and I had a few flings and ONS which I regret. I’m much more settled now and would love to get into a relationship but I’m scared of my ‘count’ going up? I was dating this great guy for a few months but couldn’t sleep with him because I was scared he’d up and leave, even though he probably wouldn’t have. Anyway what I’m asking is whether my count is too high for my age, and whether I should wait to get into a relationship to have sex or not because sometimes a girl has needs, you’re amazing btw x
7. July 2020
You have sex when you’re ready and when you’re comfortable. Do not let the idea of “body count” stop you from living your life, or staying in situations that don’t make you happy. Bodycount is a sexist narrative carried out by insecure men who see women as property.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I fell into a situationship a few months ago with this guy in my friendship group. We’ve been sleeping together and he’s pretty keen for it to go further, but I’ve realised that every time we have sex I just cringe out at the things he does and I’m just not sexually attracted to him, the sex does nothing for me. How do I tell him I don’t want to keep sleeping together without hurting his feelings/ruining the friendship?
7. July 2020
Simply have a word with him and say you think you’re better off as friends.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, so my boyfriend’s (he’s 23) mum is a bit overprotective and won’t let him do shit so he always has to be secretive when we try and see each other but he’s stopped trying to meet after his mum caught him out. It’s been a month now and it’s driving me mad because I want to say something about him standing up and being a man but I feel like he’ll be defensive about it. Any advice?
7. July 2020
He’s 23? Break up with him till he’s ready to man up please.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, my best friend’s girlfriend hates me. Him and I had an accidental drunken hookup 3 years ago before he’d even met her and we’ve both said that neither of us want to do that again but the past year or so our friendship has been strained because of his girlfriend. She causes arguments with him if he ever wants to see me (even when we’re with our other friends). I’ve spoken to her a couple of times asking if she’s okay with our friendship and I’ll respect it if she’s uncomfortable but she said she was fine and has now blocked me on all social media. It’s got to the point where he’s changed my name on his phone and can only talk to me when she’s at work or has to lie to her about where he is. Him and I have argued about lying to her because I don’t want to be *that* girl but I don’t want to lose my best friend. What do I do?!
18. June 2020
This is such a tough one, because no matter how genuine you are some girls *understandably* do not feel comfortable with their boyfriends being close with someone they’ve been intimate with in the past. It’s not completely your responsibility alone to make her comfortable, especially when she’d outright shown you that she will never like you. Let her and her boyfriend figure it out, but try to be respectful and give him some distance. Who knows, maybe he’s slipped up in the past with someone else, and could possibly be taking it out on the relationship you have with her man. However, all this sneaking around just to communicate with you on his end isn’t normal. She clearly wants him to pick.
Oloni
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