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Hey Oloni hope you’re well. Just need your opinion on something. Basically i have a real passion for hair and I’ve doing it for a very long time. And I have a service in which people pay me to do their hair. I do both male and female hairstyles. Now, I have a boyfriend & some guys have asked me to do their hair for Them. My boyfriend basically tells me I can’t do hair for my male clients as he doesn’t like the idea of me going to a males house to do their hair because he thinks the guys will try something. I have never done anything with any of my clients when I go to their house to do hair as it is strictly business. What do you think I should do/ say to my boyfriend?
7. July 2019
Your boyfriend is being extremely unreasonable and you need to let him know this. You can’t let him stop you from making money due to his insecurities. Ask him why he feels this way? Have either of you cheated on each other before? Would he prefer if they came to your house, while he’s there??
Oloni
How do I get my partner to match my nasty 😭 In 2019 he does eat pussy, he will be funny about kissing me after getting head and I generally feel like he’s selfish when it comes to sex. I’ve mentioned it to him and even withheld head or sex to try prompt compromise but to no avail. I don’t want to leave him but a girl has neeeds. What do you advise?
7. July 2019
Sexual compatibility is important for some for others it seriously isn’t. If you’ve tried to compromise by holding out on sexual acts. Try asking what all his boundaries are and see if you can work around it.
For example. If he’s not into oral sex, try getting an oral sex toy or flavoured lubricant to see if that can help.
Best of luck
oloni
How do I get the control back in a “situationship”? I feel like I’ve lost my voice, so how do I get that back? Should I play hard to get and make myself less available? We only see each other about twice a week as it is..
7. July 2019
Sis, why do you even want advice on a situationship? If you’re after a relationship in general communicate this. If he’s not interested, cut him off. He returns wanting the same thing then cool. If not move on.
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30. June 2019
Therapy! But see a Doctor for professional advice.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’ve recently being considering having a sugar daddy because things are really hard for me right now ( rent, bills etc) i am a full time student with a part time job which pays me next to nothing. I can barely afford to take care of myself. I have a boyfriend of 2 years who I love very much but cannot support me financially. How can I start an agreement with a sugar daddy while still in a relationship? I considered talking to my boyfriend about it but he is the jealous type and probably wouldn’t like the idea of it. Should I still go ahead and get a sugar daddy with the hope of him never finding out? Or continue to struggle? What do you suggest?
30. June 2019
Baby girl if you’re in a monogamous relationship then you’re going to have to stick to that. If your boyfriend can’t do what you really need from a man right now, break up with him and let him find someone else. When you’ve done that, we can revisit this topic.
Oloni
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