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Hi oloni me and my sister in-law have been living together for over a year now and she is so sexy am beginning to have feelings for her and I know she does too, is it right for us to be involved in a sexual relationship?
18. September 2020
Behave! This is weird.
Oloni
Il try to keep it short so I’m seeing an older man who’s married with 2 children. He currently lives with his wife and children but states he they don’t have a romantic relationship, he’s only there for his children as she’s not mentally fit to care for herself or their children. When their marriage fall apart he moved out and worked aboard for a couple of months. There, he met another woman, they had a brief relationship and she fell pregnant. the new baby is due In a few weeks and he’s supported this woman all the way. He’s decided he will make this woman his 2nd wife as she’s the mother of his child and he will care for them. Now my dilemma is I don’t want to be 3rd best, he made a comment recent that I won’t be his main one but I will be his favourite and that doesn’t sit well with me. He’s an amazing man and treats me extremely well he kind, gentle and loving but I just don’t want be/feel in competition with these women. Am I over thinking the situation or should trust he’ll be there for me also 100%?
18. September 2020
Hey b! I’ll try keep it short. Me and my man live far away from each other. Been together 2 years. Half way through I found out his favourite hobby is lying and I’m pretty sure he’s cheated. Whenever I bring a situation up he’s spins it round and it’s my fault. This cycle carried on for a while until lock down when I realised I actually don’t even like him anymore. I told him, he cried and promised to never wrong me again. I thought I could start to have feelings again. Now I got my self a PT and he’s finnnneeee. I have sex dreams about him. I still haven’t got feelings for my boyfriend. I don’t know what to do anymore
8. July 2020
Break up with his and sleep with your PT.
oloni, i got ghosted for the very first time and i honestly don’t know how to take it. we were on the same page, we both wanted a relationship and even talked about meeting eachother’s parents, been on multiple dates all paid for by him and taking our relationship to the next step. fast forward one day we’re talking about something super casual and he stoped answering mid conversation. i texted him and called him but no response.. at this point it’s clear i’m being ghosted. but i just seriously don’t understand why and honestly i’m heartbroken and have been crying for 2 days. i just don’t understand. how could someone do this?
7. July 2020
I’m so sorry you’ve experienced this and I wish I had the answers but sadly I don’t. If you need to cry more, cry. If you need your friends to talk to call them. Do something to make yourself feel better. I’ve never quite understood ghosting especially when a real bond has been created. I think it’s cowardly but also a true testament of this persons character, so just be grateful you found out. Time might tell and it might not, but you have to do what you can to move on. He could also be going through something privately, you just never know.
Oloni
My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married lately, we are planning to keep our wedding small as we both don’t want to spend a lot of money on the wedding and instead are putting spare money towards our house. One of the things that came up was choosing bridesmaid’s and best men. He mentioned his best mate being his best man – but I am not a fan of this for a few reasons. His best man has been extremely unsupportive of me because firstly, I’m not from the same country as them and second his sister used to date my current boyfriend. Whenever we are in person he intentionally mentions his sister and how well she is doing and how that could have been in. My boyfriend is super supportive and has always reassured me that he doesn’t want to be with his best mates sister but I feel uncomfortable being around his best friend. His bestfriend is forever asking him questions like “if you could have slept with someone from back in the day who would it have been”.. he’s 30.. I would much rather his brother be the best man at our wedding as he doesn’t have the same issues as his boy. His brother doesn’t care that I am not from the same country. Anyway, I know that marriage is a compromise so if my partner wants his boy to be the best man I will accept but I’m wondering whether I’m entitled to raise it as an issue – the things that his mate has done. I wouldn’t go to the extent of saying he can’t be best man but I can go to the extent of explaining that the things his boy does aren’t right? Right?
7. July 2020
I think you’re being completely rational to be honest. His best friend is an idiot and needs to get over his sister no longer being in the picture. He’s full of absolute bad vibes. Express to him what you’ve expressed to me today. At the end of the day a wedding is meant to be full of love and who wants someone who’s making mad remarks like that, involved in the wedding and to have such an important role. Ask how he’d feel if the tables were turned?
I hope he sees the light and gets rid. I also hope everything works out.
Good luck
Oloni
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