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Hi love, I hope you’re good! So, I’ve been dating this guy for a few months now and his birthday is approaching. I’m the type of person that goes all out for birthdays and special events for those I care about, however I’ve done this in the past for men who I now know to be less than deserving of the presents and effort. However, I really like this guy and I genuinely think he deserves something special for his birthday. We have our ups and downs but he’s been very good to me so far. I’m not sure whether I should tone the birthday celebrations down a bit and just take him out for dinner or whether I should just do what I would normally do and treat him well. It’s quite a trivial matter but I don’t want to make the same mistake of doing the most and it not being appreciated!
26. May 2020
A card and chocolates will do. You’re dating, not official.
Oloni
I met my boyfriend the same day I met our mutual friend and his best friend. We have been together for 5 months now but recently he’s really been prioritising our friend over me. He’s been going to drinks with her and she calls him for almost everything, even for things that she could just text him about. She’s bisexual and predominantly likes women but I can’t help but feel jealous and a little worried she’s trying something on him. Today she got hurt at work and she called him and he carried her from work to her flat and is doing everything for her. He says she’s his best friend and I respect that and our relationship is very stable but I just can’t help but worry.
26. May 2020
He’s doing way too much. Tell him how you feel and ask him if he’d feel comfortable if the tables were turned.
Oloni
Hi Girls! Me and my partner have been dating for 6yrs and I’m expecting our 1st child. Due to the Coronavirus we have been stuck in the house for 3weeks so far , the relationship is great but unfortunately he’s left the house to go meet friends 2days in a row. Am I overreacting to thing he is absolutely wrong to put us in danger ? I’ve bought it up to him but he shrugged off , avoiding communicating the issue. I felt disrespected. What should I do ? We are both 26 btw
16. April 2020
Sorry to hear what you’re going through. Myself and the ladies of laid bare answer this question for you! It’ll be out this Sunday. I’ll also make this a question if the day on my social media page.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I feel uncomfortable with my bf using houseparty.. I have never used it cus I can see how wild it can get. I feel like no good can come out of it, am I just being insecure. Thank you
1. April 2020
He can wild on other apps if he really wants to. Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat. Yes. you’re being insecure. Has he given you a reason to be? Talk to him about it, but don’t make a huge fuss.
Oloni
Hey, my boyfriend still talks to his ex and girls that use to like him. He tells me that his not gonna stop talking to his ex because she says she’s depressed and he had friendships with these people. They all know about but yes I’m insecure and i don’t know how to feel about it.
1. April 2020
If this doesn’t make you comfortable you can only do one thing. Take action of your position and leave the relationship. It’s nice that he’s helping someone with mental health issues, but what’s his excuse for the other women?
Oloni
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