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Hi Oloni, basically I’m at uni and also am in a LDR as he’s at a different uni. One night I got very drunk and my housemate who was supposed to be a good friend kissed me kmt. I kissed back not really thinking much about it, however I am not in the least bit attracted to him and can never see myself with that person, this happened a while ago but it’s still paying on my mind. Should I tell my boyfriend?
24. February 2021
I honestly don’t see anything positive coming from you telling him, especially if it’s a pointless kiss. But that could be more of a reason to tell him too? You feel so comfortable with your boyfriend, you’re able to tell him about a drunken mistake. How will he truly react? You know him best.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, love what you’re doing allowing us to have a safe space to talk. Okay quick question, I’m on a journey of celibacy and I’m approaching my 6 month mark next month. There’s this guy that I find super attractive and we’ve spoken on a sexual level. I want to fuck him and I’ve accepted that I’m only going to fuck him and dip but should I really come out of this journey for a nigga I’ve never fucked? Imagine waiting 6 months for shit strokes. I would like to hear what you think.
24. February 2021
Honestly, sometimes men are not worth the fuck.
Stick to your journey if that is something you want to do and have sex because, again that’s what you want to DO!
Be patient and perhaps try to remind yourself as to why you wanted to be celibate in the first place.
Oloni
God I love you, perfect timing. Here’s my dilemma… Rekindled with an ex from my early twenties last year during lockdown after years of no-contact. We broke up after a couple of months after realising we both are hung up on other exes. We continued sleeping together and I found out I was 3 months pregnant a couple of weeks ago with his baby. He’s trying to work it out with his ex and so am I (I have mixed feelings about keeping baby, due to body-clock ticking, I’d like to. But he firmly does not want to). I’m willing to put everything aside to raise my child but he’s just focussed on rekindling with his ex and her not finding out. Please advise? Do I go ahead to have my child without him? Do I just tell his ex? Any advice or recommendations welcome.
24. February 2021
Do what you want to do! I do think you should have a conversation with him as it’s important, but ultimately it’s your decision.
Oloni
t/w********suicide. My bfs ex girlfriend keeps trying to sabotage our relationship. She stalks me and my friends on social media via numerous fake accounts and she’s constantly trying to insert herself in my Bfs life after he’s adamantly told her he can’t be there for her anymore. She recently threatened to commit suicide if he didn’t at LEAST remain friends with her. I am not a witch so obviously I agreed that he needed to somewhat be present in her life so that this isn’t ok our conscience. HOWEVER I recently went on my Bfs laptop and found messages between them that aren’t on his phone. He was asking if SHE missed HIM? And calling eachother their “special person”. Obviously, I was bewildered but don’t want to act in a hasty way. So do I confront him about this or let it slide? (That’s the only weird evidence I seen)
24. February 2021
If he’s asking those questions it’s clear as to why she’s also finding it hard to let go. He’s obviously leading her on. The whole scenario is messy! I hope she gets the help she deserves, honestly because heartbreak can be extremely hard to deal with sometimes.
You have to think about yourself and this unnecessary love triangle. Step back from this all and leave..Nothing positive can come from this.
Oloni
Hi Oloni. Is it normal or common for women to experience more pleasure from solo play and toys rather than with men? I genuinely feel that sex is overrated and doesn’t live up to the hype. Everyone says ‘You haven’t had it with the right person’. Is this really the case? Do you have any advice for me at all? Thank you in advance x
24. February 2021
Hey it is very common, but you should try and teach your partners what it is you like in bed. I’d also suggest bringing your sex toys into the bedroom. You could use it during foreplay and in different positions when penetration is involved.
Oloni
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