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Hi Oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year and everything is going great. Over the past 6 months, I’ve been slowly losing interest in sex and expressed this to him and we spoke about being celibate together for 3 months, which have just started recently. I started losing interest in sex as I was unhappy about my body, but although I no longer feel that way, I still don’t feel excited about sex. I’m only 27 and I’m worried about ruining my relationship as my boyfriend has a high sex drive and when we started our relationship, I had a high sex drive too. I know that relationships are more than sex, and I am happy that there is more to my relationship than sex, but I can’t help but feel insecure that he might one day lose interest as I don’t fulfil this need for him. Is it normal to lose your sex drive at 27? Help!
18. February 2021
It’s normal to have a low sex drive and a high one. Sometimes we just just go through phases. This could be due to work, how we feel about ourselves, stress, etc etc. The question is do you want your sex drive to match his? If so find ways on how you can be intimate together to help give you that push to want to have sex. Plan a sexy date night, do something together which makes you feel great.. get intimate. It’s also best to let him know how you feel. There’s power in communication.
Oloni
My man went hotel with another woman and so i cheated back and now im pregnant with the person. After i confronted him about the hotel thing he continued to message her and stay in contact but was still declaring love to me? It was super twisted. I begged for months for him to lose contact with the person, he never. (I kept checking his phone etc) she was still messaging him etc (she is already in a relationship herself) so because he didnt listen after months, it gave me depression and so i cheated back, now i am pregnant and its the other persons (90% sure) i feel like telling him what he made me do, or should i just leave it?
17. February 2021
You need to get out of this toxic cycle with your ex and figure out what you’re going to do with this new life inside of you. I’d also suggest some therapy as it sounds like you’ve really been going through it emotionally. I hope everything works out well
Oloni
Hi Oloni anon please so I spent Valentine’s Day with my bf and for some reason decided to use my fake page to check his ex girlfriend’s insta story. I saw that she was given the same type of roses as me and could see a guys trainers in the left corner. These look identical to the trainers he wore to my house. I asked him and he started telling me I was tapped and left my house. I went back to check her page and the post was removed. Was I in the wrong for asking him? He’s cool with his ex but they don’t talk like that
15. February 2021
That man is a liar and will die a liar. I find it hilarious that the post was removed as soon as you confronted the situation. He sounds guilty to me. Sorry you experienced that
Oloni
Ok so this story is a lil mad. I’ve been with my partner for 7 years and he’s cheated 3 times. I only knew about the first one when it happened, I forgave and we stayed together. I recently found out about the other 2 times he’s cheated. The last one was a 3 year, long distance affair. It wasn’t a one off, she was his side chick. They met whilst he was on a boys holiday. It was an emotional & physical affair. He got her pregnant when they started seeing eachother but they didn’t keep the baby. The last time he saw her was just before the pandemic. We are currently separated , but he wants to make things right and show and prove to me he’s changed. Although he was my best friend , I’m in two minds. What would you do if you were me?
15. February 2021
Hi Oloni.. I have a complicated friendship with an amazing girl. She has a boyfriend but doesn’t like speaking about him around me and we have sort of told each other we like each other. She hasn’t broken up with her boyfriend and I feel like I am being reserved as a second option.. she doesn’t rate any of the girls I have been seeing and gets jealous when she sees me around other women (again I must stress.. she has a boyfriend!) I’m ok with this to an extent, I have settled in my mind if she was single then she would be the one for me.. I am curious though, from a woman’s perspective, what do you think is on her mind? And should I walk away? Feel torn that I should walk away to respect her relationship but also know that our friendship means so much to her (and me 🙃) would love your thoughts on this mind maize! Thanks
15. February 2021
Heya, I definitely think it’d be best to distance yourself to respect her relationship. Who knows if it’s meant to be, maybe it possibly will. You also have to ask yourself, do you want to be with someone who’s telling other men, she has feelings for them? It’s not a great look. Give yourselves some space, it could also help her decide on what she really wants to do.
Oloni
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